How You Act When Someone Breaks Your Heart, According To Your Zodiac Sign
Everyone has it hard after heartbreak.
Unsplash Dealing with a broken heart is something that can really shatter you, and depending on astrology, your zodiac sign may not be well equipped to deal with heartbreak as well as someone else's.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve seen it coming for ages or if it was out of the blue, when you get your heart broken, it changes you in a way that can affect you for a long time.
That doesn’t mean you can’t get over heartbreak — especially if you’re going through it now and it feels like you’re losing hope — because it’s entirely possible to get over heartbreak; it’s not permanent.
And if you’ve ever met your best self, then you know that you can accomplish anything in life — and you can even conquer heartbreak. Hopefully, you won’t have to do it more than once, but that’s life for ya, always surprising you when you least want it to.
When I’ve dealt with heartbreak, I’ve always turned to my favorite comfort things to cheer me up… after getting sad and angry first, of course. And my favorite things usually including eating my weight in ice cream, drinking my weight in wine (is that possible?), and flirting with someone new. Because the one thing I hate more than keeping around people who don’t care about me is dwelling on the past.
I know my future is FULL of amazing people and opportunities, so why should I wait around for an ex who probably doesn’t care anymore, right? Right.
Of course, the way I act after having my heart broken most certainly isn’t the way you act or anyone else does — we all deal with heartbreak differently. And astrology plays a role in how we act, too.
If you’re more of a fiery sign — or a fire sign in general — you’re more likely to give into your impulsivity and get angrier, whereas other signs are more sensitive to heartbreak and get deeply sad. But the way your zodiac sign acts when you’ve been hurt isn’t wrong or bad; it’s just different from everyone else.
So, when you see a friend going through heartbreak and you know what their horoscope sign is, chances are pretty good that you can predict how they’ll act as they begin to heal after the breakup.
I’m not saying it won’t be ugly, but you can at least prepare for a range of scary emotions (ahem, Gemini).
And once you get over the worst of it, heartbreak does go away. Like I said, it doesn’t stay around forever.
And soon, you’ll be able to get your confidence back and find someone else who loves you more than anything, which, by the way, is an amazing feeling.
So, keep reading to find out how you act when you’re broken-hearted, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, when you’re broken-hearted, you get into the mindset that you need to do something drastic and crazy to feel better. You’re so used to having everyone who meets you love you at first sight that the idea that your partner might have called it quits because he didn’t like something about you is almost unthinkable.
It’s not that you’re full of yourself, but you honestly don’t understand. But, instead of trying to understand or even just move on from it all, you have the sudden itch to do something totally stupid and not you at all.
And the worst part about this is that you have more adrenaline to actually follow through than most signs. Of course, you know as well as I do that dying your hair neon yellow and getting a tongue ring isn’t the way to cope — so expect to end up getting angry at yourself later.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Feeling broken-hearted is a huge blown to your emotional state, Taurus. And when you’re feeling this fragile, you want to treat yourself with as much care as you would fine china: bubble wrap, lots of cushioning, and comfort… except, you know, for a person, not plates.
But it’s still a similar concept and after heartbreak, you go looking for as much comfort as possible. This means lots of blankets and pillows when you just can’t get out of bed because you’re too sad and, yes, LOTS of comfort food.
You may feel even worse after inhaling Cheetos and Nutella for an entire week straight, but emotionally, you’re ready to take on the world. You just need some time to take your mind off of how crappy you feel after having your heart broken and nothing heals like junk food.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini, the only thought running through your mind after having your heart broken is, “How dare he hurt me like that?” This might not seem as terrifying if it were any other sign, but because it’s you, anyone that rubs you the wrong way for the next few weeks is going to feel your wrath.
You know you’re a total catch and the fact that someone would go and break your heart is unthinkable.
The only thing you feel after a breakup that leaves you broken is white-hot anger… and inconsolable sadness. You tend to experience some pretty dangerous mood swings, but once you get all of these emotions out of your system, you get over it.
Until then, though, you need to let yourself feel everything — it makes it that much easier to convince yourself that your ex ain’t sh*t when you inevitably run into him later.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You’d hate to lose your cool in front of someone after having your heart broken, Cancer — especially your ex – so you do whatever you can to make it back home so you can let out everything you’re feeling.
It’s not uncommon for you to pretend like everything is fine — sometimes even in front of family and friends – just so you can cope on your own.
In reality, you’re a total mess; swollen face, constantly runny nose, and zero appetite. You hate the thought of having someone see you so vulnerable when you don’t have any control over your emotions, so you try to hide is as best as you can.
Of course, someone will eventually find out that you got your heart broken, but until then, you sneak around and hide your true feelings.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, heartbreak is confusing and, well, heartbreaking, for you. Chances are, if you’re experiencing a deeply hurtful heartbreak, it probably took you by complete surprise.
You have a sixth sense about all of your relationships, and you’re pretty good at determining who is temporary and who is around to stay — friends and partners included. Of course, this is life, which means that you can’t always know everything.
You put in a lot of effort when it comes to love and relationships, even if it’s a short-lived relationship or a casual one. So, when you’re dealing with a broken heart, you start to question if your methods and efforts are all wrong.
It’s not uncommon for you to blame yourself for everything, either, and even go into a shame spiral. You’re usually very sure of yourself, but there’s nothing like heartbreak to cut you down a few notches.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You have so much love to give, Virgo, that when your heart gets broken, it’s like burning all of your hard work and letting the wind take it away. Maybe not exactly like that, but you get it.
You don’t love just anyone — your relationships are special and meaningful to you, and you want them to last as long as possible. So, when heartbreak comes along, it feels like someone has ripped your heart out of your chest.
For you, heartbreak tends to lead to a total shut down of your emotions and affection. You no longer smile at strangers, you don’t care about making your best friend happy with morning coffee, and you don’t take care of yourself anymore.
Instead, you turn cold-hearted, which is fitting as your especially warm-hearted nature has been stolen. Heartbreak makes you numb and it can take a very long time to find yourself again.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra, you can be an especially fierce lover and partner, which makes you great for long-term and monogamous relationships. But, of course, heartbreak is inevitable in life, which can make you turn into someone totally different altogether.
When you get your heart broken, you don’t feel like yourself anymore, so you tend to adhere to the saying, “If you want to get over someone, you gotta get under someone else.”
Yep, that’s right! You will sleep with anyone and everyone, as long as it keeps you from having to stop and think about what just happened. You might even open your Tinder account and dust off your do-me heels that same day, you don’t care!
This wild and crazy you might sound like a good time, but trust me when I say that you will come to hate it quicker than you think.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Not a lot of people would expect anything less than a shrug and a roll of the eyes from you after heartbreak, Scorpio, but that's only because you seem much tougher than you really are. Inside that hard, outer shell of yours is an ooey-gooey center that is full of love and affection and sometimes caramel.
So, when you deal with heartbreak, all your emotions come straight from within this soft center.
It might be a little harsh to say this, but dealing with a broken heart makes you surprisingly weak. You can't seem to stop crying, either, whether it's because you can't find your mascara in the morning or because you forgot to buy bananas at the supermarket.
I know, I know, it's very hard to pick yourself up after a breakup, but if anyone can do it, it would be you, right? Until then, though, don't be afraid to be sad; just bring tissues.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 19)
Sagittarius, after a heartbreak of the worst kind, you feel the need to really let loose and show the world that nothing can bring you down, even if that's exactly what has happened.
You tend to think that going back to your old ways is the best medicine, but really, it's just going to make you sadder when you remember that you don't have that special someone waiting for you at home. Of course, you're going to do whatever the hell you want (as always), so don't worry about listening to people's concerns... just be careful with your choices.
Why do I say this? Because when your heart has been broken, you tend to fill the void with all of your favorite vices until you're comfortably numb enough to be able to smile again, but not enough to drunk text your ex.
You will reach for that jumbo bottle of wine, some cookie dough ice cream, sometimes a joint, and maybe even some porn. It all depends on how sad you are and how quickly you want to forget it all.
CAPRICORN (December 20 - January 19)
To you, Capricorn, losing your cool after a seriously bad heartbreak is a sign of weakness. That said, you know that you're only human (unfortunately)m and that sometimes you have to let go of being in control all the time and just let yourself feel, as hard as that is for you.
Of course, you would never let that happen around other people, so you choose to quietly suffer, even if that means you can't talk it out with your closest friends. It's not even true, but you often think about what your friends would say if they saw you in tatters.
You hate feeling weakness of any kind and that tends to be the main driving force of your choice to bottle it all up. It's not healthy, though, you should know that upfront, but you will do what you want regardless of what others say.
All you care about is getting over the worst of the heartbreak so you can get back to being yourself again, even if the heartbreak still haunts you late at night.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius, you tend to be incredibly happy and friendly when you're in a good mood (or when you're in love), but heartbreak turns you into a fire-breathing dragon. Okay, not literally because how cool would THAT be?
But, you get my point. Your demeanor changes from kind soul to scary and mean, and honestly, you like it that way. You're going to get mad about it eventually, so you might as well get it over with now.
Your mindset after having your heart broken is that your ex must have seen something negative in you to want to end it. So, by that logic, you want to give him something to prove by becoming nasty and cruel.
You hate when people have preconceived notions of you without actually seeing that side of you first, so you end up torturing yourself by giving up and giving in. It's not healthy, but blah, blah, blah, do what you want.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
You love being in love, Pisces, because you're just so darn good at it, if you say so yourself. So, when it comes to serious heartbreak, it throws you totally off-kilter and you're honestly pretty shocked.
Your mind starts racing the minute your heart smashes into a million and one pieces, and if you're not ripping your now-ex a new one, you're probably completely speechless.
Once you regain your composure, though, that is when the self-deprecating thoughts start. You will inevitably go over every second of your relationship like a play-by-play during a football game, but you just can't help it.
You want to know why it happened and how, and why you and not that bitch from your night class. There's just way too much going on right now to decipher, but you'd rather have it that way anyway.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a book in the future.