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Dating apps, kamasutra guides, and even a vibrator; what else do you need?
By Stephanie Watson — Written on Sep 20, 2017
Sometimes dating and hook-ups can be tough. It's difficult to know how to meet someone new or how to keep the spark alive with an old flame. But luckily, this is 2017, and most of our problems can be solved by nifty little lifesavers known as apps.
How can an app save a love-life? Well, in seven different ways. From hook-ups within the hour to guides full of sexual positions and prompts, almost all of your kinky desires can be fulfilled with a few swipes. And I don't just mean by downloading Tinder or Googling how to do the reverse cowgirl.
So if you're a BDSM beauty, a wife of ten years, or even if you're all by yourself without a dildo, here are the best kinky apps you need to check out.
1. KNKI
Let's kick off the list with some BDSM, shall we? KNKI is a dating app for those within the BDSM community and anyone interested in everything kink. The app isn't just a Tinder clone, but also includes all of your favorite social media qualities that make Facebook, Instagram and Twitter your favorite haunts: hashtags, updates, photos, videos, link sharing.
The only difference is that now you don't have to worry that your 80-year-old aunt or religious teenage cousin will see your thoughts on the latest fetish club you visited. Not only this, but KNKI Uncovered is a sub-project within the app that aims to spread positivity about the BDSM community, dispelling the guilt and shame that many kinksters face when exploring their sexual side.
2. Pillow
If you and your partner are looking to reconnect romantically and sexually, then Pillow is one of the best kinky apps for you. Made for busy couples, the app is filled with quick and thorough sexual prompts that come in the form of 5-15 minute educational videos. The app is perfect for couples who have recently had a child, have been in a rut lately, or have just come off of a long-distance relationship, amongst other issues that may be affecting your love life.
In fact, Lola Phoenix of The Alt Entertainer recommends the app for asexual folk too, saying, "I think that partners who are one or both asexual may find that these episodes can be really useful for building intimacy with partners. I’d definitely recommend it for any partners, asexual or not, who are struggling to do something intimate and romantic that isn’t necessarily sexual."
3. Whiplr
Branded the "first and largest mobile community for kinksters," Whiplr is the fetish dating app of your dreams. The app is an intuitively designed playhouse that includes such features as the "icebreakers" button, which plays an animation to your conversation partner in order to, well... break the ice and make things a little less shy.
You can also send people virtual gifts and even host photo contests. Like fetishism itself, there are no restrictions to the app; you can look for one-night stands, long-term relationships, LGBT+ partners, and polyamorous partners. Anything goes!
4. 69 Places
Time for a little exhibitionism! 69 Places is a simple and extensive guide to all of the best public sex locations based on your area. The clever thing about the app isn't just the fact that you have knowledge of these sex zones at your fingertips, but that it's also a game.
You can keep track of where and how many times you've made love in certain areas and watch as your percentage of all 99 locations rise. Can you reach all 99? Or at least 69 maybe? The app has several intriguing categories such as Transportation, Sporting Venues, and if you're feeling a little less daring, In the Home. Within those categories are even more subcategories, such as Dressing Room, Elevator, Copy Machine, and even Mansion.
How you'd be able to find a mansion to make love in then I'll never know, but it's worth the effort. Wherever you choose, just please keep it to adult-only venues and clean up after yourselves.
This app is exactly what you think it is: a huge collection of sex positions. Choose from such categories as oral, anal, woman on top, standing, and many more. There's even an “advanced” section for all the Kamasutra experts out there.
If you're stuck for ideas or just want to try something new, then don't bother fiddling around with Google or a paperback copy of the ancient text, because everything you need is right there on your phone. You can even mark off what you've done so far; just like with 69 Places you can make a game out of sexual exploration.
If somehow your favorite move isn't in the Big Book of Kamasutra, then you can email them with a suggestion, which makes the Big Book a never-ending resource for everything you've ever wanted to do in the bedroom.
Let's forget about partnership for a minute and concentrate on just you. iMassage is an app that turns your smartphone into something you never thought you'd use it for: a vibrator. Maybe you can't afford a good quality vibrator, maybe you're too shy to go to the adult store to pick one up, or maybe you live with a nosy family member or roommate who would never let you live it down if they found a dildo in your room.
The app has several different pulse settings which means you'll never get bored of a certain rhythm. Okay, so maybe this massage app wasn't really meant for sexual pleasure, but if you're going to use it on that knot in your back, you may as well get creative and slide it down somewhere more sensitive. Just make sure your phone is very clean before and after you use it, and maybe don't insert it anywhere dark.
7. Pure
If you're not into the idea of a long-term relationship right now, then maybe Match.com and eHarmony aren't for you. Instead, Pure is a quick hook-up app that will help you find the perfect one-night stand. After downloading the app, you'll be asked to upload a photo of yourself which will stay live for one hour to be seen by people in your chosen area.
The reason why it only stays up for an hour is that the app is for people are already set to go and hook up ASAP — not tomorrow, not next week, but right now. You have one hour to chat and set up your hook-up, and then you'll close the app and meet. You can fill that hour with whatever you want; maybe you want to get to know literally everything you can about that person, or maybe you want to sext for a while, but deciding how you spend it is all part of the fun.
Check out the video below to learn how you can bring BDSM to your bedroom:
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Stephanie Watson is a freelance journalist, specializing in social justice, wellness, and pop culture. She is the editor-in-chief of feminist website Fembot Magazine, creator of the zine Cyberrriot, and has contributed to such online publications as HelloGiggles, Bitch Media, Bustle, and many more. Follow her on Twitter @Stephie__Watson.
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