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He's the owner of a lonely heart.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Sep 06, 2017
You can be in a crowd of people and still feel desperately lonely. Loneliness is the perception of being alone, feeling isolated, unwanted, empty, and without people who care about you.
When you’re lonely you may crave human contact and long for a connection with another person, but the process may seem impossible. The longer you feel lonely, the more intense those negative feelings can become. And sometimes, even your horoscope can't provide any solace.
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There are many things that can lead to loneliness such as the death of someone close to you, divorce, moving somewhere new and finding yourself in an unwanted state of solitude. Stopping loneliness can be a challenging task and can sometimes require more than just calling up a friend.
Moments of loneliness are fine — we all go through them — but long-term ongoing loneliness can affect one in very serious ways. Some of the risks of feeling lonely for an extended amount of time are depression, suicide, altered brain function, low self-esteem, poor decision-making skills, alcoholism, drug abuse, self-harm, cardiovascular disease, stress, decreased memory, and learning problems.
Feeling extreme loneliness can have awful consequences and if you can determine that someone is feeling lonely, helping them out of the state of loneliness can be one of the kindest things you can do for them.
Astrology can help us to have a better understanding of loneliness and how it influences the feelings and behaviors of the individuals born under each of the zodiac signs. The reason a Libra might be lonely and the effect that loneliness would have on such a social person would be quite different than how it would affect a Cancer individual who sometimes prefers being alone and feeling twinges of loneliness than to be around a crowd of people that they don’t know.
Here are the loneliest zodiac signs and why he feels so alone.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
He's become very self-absorbed and doesn't show any interest in anybody but himself. If he could get out of his head, he would see that the world revolves, just not around him. He's alienating people with his constant stream of "poor me's" and every conversation ending up being all about him.
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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
He's lonely because he's scared to death of being taken advantage of or someone betraying him, so he takes a really long time to trust people and allow them into his life. The problem is that no one wants to wait around until he decides that they're okay enough to be in his life. He needs to take more chances on people and know that if they screw him over in any way, he can handle it.
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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
He's an example of someone who is extremely social but still lonely. He just hasn't felt as if he's connecting with people beyond a superficial way. He wants to be understood and for people to "get" him but that's not happening. He could actually be spreading himself too thin so that he doesn't have the energy or desire to work on going deeper with someone.
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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He's always been there for his friends but now that he needs them, he can't get hold of anybody. So, he's trying to become a better person by being thoroughly lonely and working through it. If the people in his life are only takers, not givers, then he needs to rethink his relationships. He should start at the beginning and be more careful about who he lets into his life. He wants to come out of this bout of loneliness as a better and stronger person with better relationships.
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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
He's lonely because he's convinced himself that everybody who says they're on his side is actually against him. He thinks they've only pretending to care and that their loyalty is false. He may have a ton of supporters and people who look up to him but if he can't trust that they're legitimate, he becomes one of the loneliest zodiac signs.
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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
He's lonely because he's not getting the satisfaction that he usually gets from his life. Everything is broken and for once he has no idea on how to fix it. He needs to find something that captures his interest and that he can use some of his research abilities on. Once he starts feeling more like himself, he will be able to reach out to people.
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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
He seems to be running hot and cold on everybody. One minute he's best friends with someone and the next he can't stand them. They don't even have to do anything major to turn him. It's as if one part of him wants to be left alone while the other part wants to be with people, and the two have gone to battle with the result being profound loneliness.
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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
He's a self-described loner and doesn't mind being alone... until he does. And then he has no idea how to get out of his loneliness spiral. You can enjoy your own company but that doesn't mean it's a good idea to get rid of all the people in your life. There needs to be a balance between being alone and still being able to enjoy being with people.
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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
He's lonely because he's so terrified that a connection will lead to a commitment that he prefers to have no ties with anybody. He likes traveling alone and even though he often meets new people, that doesn't mean he doesn't get lonely every now and then, especially when he's in a foreign country miles away from his family and friends.
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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
He's lonely because he's put so much focus on work and finishing projects that making friends and having relationships have fallen by the wayside. He's so busy working on things that he never even takes a break to have a drink with a co-worker or take a vacation. If he doesn't get out of this way of living, he'll regret it further down in his life.
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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
He's lonely because he pushes people away and becomes very distant when anyone gets emotional. He's very uncomfortable with "feelings" especially the ones that aren't his and would rather be lonely than have to comfort someone while they were upset.
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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
His focus on creating (whether it's art or something else) is so strong that he tends to ignore other people. He could be at a party and instead of engaging in a conversation, he'll be in his head trying to work out a problem in a novel that he's writing, or is mesmerized by how the light shines through the window. When his loneliness hits, it will hit him hard but he'll be able to channel it back into his art.
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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.