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He's not the cheating type.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Sep 01, 2017
No one likes being cheated on. It takes a long time to really trust someone and when they cheat on you that trust is broken into a million pieces with no guarantee that you’ll ever get it back. Your horoscope may not even have the answers for how long it will take to heal.
When you cheat on someone, whether it’s planned or just getting caught up in a moment, you’re betraying your partner and dishonoring their trust. You’re physically saying that you don’t care what your unfaithfulness will make them feel; all you care about is how you feel.
We don’t go in relationships hoping that we’ll be cheated on, we go into them (after careful consideration) with the belief that our partner will be faithful to us and respect our relationship.
Check out the TED Talk below to learn more about infidelity and why men cheat:
It can be extremely difficult to fully commit to someone if you suspect that they’re a cheater. How do you begin to build trust if part of you is convinced that your partner will be unfaithful?
No one wants to commit to someone only to have them cheat. Cheating is one of those actions that have a rippling effect and can affect people’s lives long after the cheating has ended.
Cheating is never "no big deal" unless you’re in an open relationship, and then it’s not even considered cheating in the first place. But when you’re in a closed relationship and your partner cheats on you, it can be devastating to your self-esteem, your belief in other people, and your ability to love.
We try to think logically and study our partner. Did they cheat on their previous girlfriend or wife? What do they say about people that they know who have cheated? And are there signs there already that they’re a cheater?
Whether you’re into astrology or not, the stars can reveal many things about people — their likes and dislikes, behaviors, and even psychological traits. Here’s how you know he's not cheating on you, based on his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
He's not shady when it comes to his phone. When he gets a call, he doesn't go somewhere where you can't hear the conversation and he doesn't try to shield you from seeing any texts that come in. He's given you his password several times and it's clear that he's not hiding anything from you. Everything he does is above board.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
He never forgets the two of you are together. He doesn't look at other women or flirt with them in front of you. When you're out together and you run into his friends or co-workers, he always introduces you as his "girlfriend." And he certainly doesn't tell you how hot your friend looked at the party you just went to. It's pretty clear he only has eyes for you.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
He doesn't underestimate your intelligence and respects you. When he's explaining something, he assumes you have the same level (or greater) of knowledge that he has so he doesn't mansplain or talk down to you. When you argue, he doesn't treat you like a child or swear at you. He treats you with appreciation, admiration, and deference.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He's completely open and honest with you. If his ex contacts him, he tells you; if he contacts her for any reason, he tells you; if he does something that he knows you won't like, he still tells you. He respects you enough to know that hiding something from you would eventually blow up in his face and it's better, in the long run, to keep you updated on whatever is going on with him.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
He gives you his full attention, which is not easy for a Leo. When you talk he listens and he remembers the things you say. He pays very close attention to all the aspects of you, what you like and don't like, your family history, even the foods you refuse to eat. He treasures every moment with you and won't allow anyone or anything to distract him.
Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
He's not reckless or impulsive when it comes to you. He won't lash out at you when he's feeling stressed and he tries not to push your buttons. If you hate it when someone interrupts you, he'll be careful to wait until you've finished speaking before he talks. He's considerate to a fault as you are his first priority.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
He won't engage in toxic situations. If he runs into his ex at the gym and she tries to get him to go home with her, he'll just walk out of the gym without working out. If his friends are trying to talk him into going out drinking with them but he knows that you two have an early morning hike, he'll tell them that's he needs to have an early night and will just go home. He doesn't have just one drink because he knows how easily one drink could lead to a dozen.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
He never lies to you, even if they're little white lies. He's always truthful with you, even if he knows you're not going to like the answer. He feels strongly enough about you to be able to man up when conversations get tough. He's one of those straight-shooter types and lying to you would lie heavily on him.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
There's no evidence of anything sketchy going on. You've never found lingerie that wasn't yours in his bedroom or lipstick in the glove compartment in his car. No one has ever told you that something is going with him and someone else. He's either a mastermind at cheating or he's completely transparent and into you.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
He keeps all his promises to you, even when they conflict with his work. He's a man of his word and he doesn't want to disappoint you by flaking out. He's dependable and only under extreme circumstances would he ever not do something that he promised to do.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
He treats the people in his life well, so you know that it's just the kind of man he is — decent, honest, trustworthy, and an all-around good guy. He goes back to the store if the cashier gave him too much change, that's just how honest and upright he is.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
You'd feel it if he was cheating on you. It's not that you have special powers to alert you to a cheater but you'd know it in your gut. You haven't felt that there's any indication that he's being unfaithful. You're excellent at reading people and you can tell he's a good guy with only the best intentions.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.
