5 Signs He Sees You As Cheat-On-Able, NOT Date-able

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Over several bottles of wine and a great meal with a friend who ALWAYS seems to want to pawn off “fix-ups” on me, I stumbled across a breed in the dating world I hadn’t yet realized existed: the “cheat-on-able” option.

After 3 whole minutes of politely trying to say no to a guy that my dear friend could not have been more persistent about me dating, I could not keep the horrid truth to myself any longer and nearly yelled, “I can’t, he is just SO cheat-on-able.” Although the words literally flew out of my mouth, we had to examine them fully, since that one label touches on some major dating truths.

(Before you even think it, I am not the meanest worst person in the world. There are such things as cheat-on-able guys, and I’m sure there is such thing as cheat-on-able girls. I’ve been cheated on a fair share of times, so perhaps I’m even one of them.)

 


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Whether or not we choose to admit it out loud, we have all encountered a cheat-on-able someone. These are the people who are honestly amazing inside and out and will usually be described as “so nice.” They are probably attractive, have their sh*t together, and would actually be great relationship material.

However, they just don't have that extra draw, that extra za-za-zu to keep your attention and emotions 100 percent on them. The infectious chemistry just isn't there.

Now, imagine yourself on the other side of this scenario. You are the one who is great relationship material, but the man you're dating doesn't seem to see it that way.

In his mind, he's telling himself, "She's wonderful," but if he finds himself at a bar without you, he just can’t help but gaze around the room for other options. He can’t help but wonder about his ex, or he might feel that instant flutter that occurs when you see someone from your past, even though you have a significant other. He catches himself innocently flirting with randoms, wondering if he has such a great person in his life why on earth would he be engaging in such behavior?

You have become the "cheat-on-able" person. But how can you tell if you're this person? Here are the signs he's going to cheat.

1. You likely “forced” your first date.

You may have worked through a friend to fix you up or maybe you were lucky enough to meet in person. Either way, you were the one who avidly tried time after time to set up the first date.

You refused to see any scheduling conflicts as a lack of interest and remained persistent until the date was set. As the one pushing so hard for it, you probably were a lot more excited about this date than he was.

2. He never seems truly excited to go on a date with you.

Sure, you think they enjoy your company once they’re actually out with you. You guys never have a bad time, you just don't have a great time either. Compared to how you have felt about dates in your past this feels so vanilla, so luke-warm.


Even though you don't want to see it, it somehow feels more like a friendly hang than it does anything romantic or sexual. You try and force the excitement before and on the date, yet you feel like your efforts fall flat every time.

3. His genuine interests do not interest you.

The two of you have nothing in common. Whether it is your job, your workout regimens, your hobbies, or all of the above, when you spend hours talking about the wonderful things that get you out of bed in the morning, you feel like it's falling on deaf ears.

He asks no engaging follow-up questions; he just sits and sighs or says “that's nice.” You become confused because you love spending time with him, yet you feel like you’re not really engaging in any real conversation.

 

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4. He doesn't bother getting to know the deep layers of who you are.

On date number 3, 4, 5, when you are supposed to start asking the tough questions and really getting to know each other, you don't. Your relationship stays in this same superficial state.

He doesn't ask how you came to be the way you are, when your last relationship was, where you want to be in a few years, or any other serious relationship questions. You might not realize why these questions don’t pop into his mind, but the reason likely is that he doesn’t see you anywhere in his long-term. You shouldn't avoid one of these early stage signs he's going to cheat.

5. He's never stopped entertaining other options.

And you kind of suspect it. “Technically” he is dating you, but when a person from their past texts to strike things up, it’s not ignored. You can suspect this because he is likely getting gunshy about labeling your relationship. If he's hesitant to call you his girlfriend, he is keeping his options open. He's probably still acting like he's single when you’re not around.

The label of “cheat-on-able” sounds like an awful one at first. However, if you really think about it, the biggest takeaway we can grasp is that it is 100 percent subjective and has a hell of a lot to do with chemistry and compatibility.

A person you feel is “cheat-on-able” could be someone else’s dream match. Maybe all of us are a little bit “cheat-on-able” in the right scenario. In any situation, if you think you are "cheat-on-able," you need to have higher standards and find someone who won't break your trust.

 

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Karen & Kristy Ambrose are twins who believe there are few things in life that a glass of red wine can’t fix. They are passionate about writing especially topics that are geared toward their fellow ladies. Follow them on Twitter and Instagram @theambrosegirls, or visit their website.

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