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Let's hope you don't make the same mistakes next time.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Aug 14, 2017
You had him — your perfect man — and then suddenly, you didn't have him anymore. You’re not entirely sure what happened. Even your horoscope can't provide you with the details you seek.
Did you give him too much attention or not enough? You were open to trying to things but did you push him to do things he didn't want to do? You can drive yourself mad wondering what it was that you did to lose your perfect man but there are some questions that can never be answered.
You can mope around all day long about what you did wrong or right but since you can’t see into somebody’s else’s head, you’ll only have suppositions and never answers. You could try asking him directly what you did wrong but you don’t know how honest he’d be or if he'd understand himself what happened.
One moment you were happy together and the next, you were back on solo street. One thing seems clear: if it was something thoughtless or unkind, you don’t want to make that kind of mistake again. You want to know what you did so that you can learn from your mistake and avoid it in the future.
When you don’t know why you lost someone, you can never have true closure and it can haunt you for a long time.
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The first step is to make note of the actual action that alerted you to the fact that he was gone from your life. Did he ghost you or break up with you in person? Did he give you a reason or was he too busy saying goodbye to give you any support for his decision?
When you lose someone from your life, it’s not uncommon to look for evidence of past behavior that validates their leaving of you. And astrology can help you with the answers you seek and can tell you all about the zodiac signs who always lose the guy.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
You never wanted to do anything. You can be perfectly happy just staying home and doing nothing but the same can't be said for Aries. Your stick-in-the-mud attitude brought him down and felt like you didn't really care about what he wanted or needed. You didn't do anything that would expand your comfort zone and it was almost as if you didn't consider him at all.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
You flirted with everyone and sight and that didn't sit well at all with Taurus. You thought it was fun to make him jealous but you went too far with that. It's one thing to keep things intriguing but you just made it so he felt as if he couldn't trust you and that you were betraying him. He knew that other men found you attractive but you didn't have to throw it in his face.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
You lost him because things got stagnant. When you ran out of things to talk about, you didn't try to find new topics to bring to the table. You got lazy — not just with your conversation but with everything. When you don't interest a Gemini on many different levels, you're sure to lose them. While you're fascinating, you can't be the only subject you're willing to talk about with a Gemini.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Your big mistake was that since you didn't want to be clingy, you bent over backward to be unemotional and aloof — and those are the last things that a Cancer wants in a partner. You just came off as if you didn't care whether you were together or not. You can be independent and have a good relationship with a Cancer but you made it seem as if you didn't need or want him for anything, so he let you go.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
What's the one thing that Leos want above all else? Attention. What didn't you give him? Attention. You thought because he has so many friends and supporters that he didn't need any attention from you. Wrong. He especially needed attention from his girlfriend. Leos have a very deep need for attention and when they don't get it, they'll try to find it from somebody else. They may appear to be endlessly confident but they still need praise and kudos from their loved one.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You treated your Virgo love as if it were a college frat house, meaning you were sloppy with your love and attention and to the unknowing eye, it appeared as if you didn't care. Virgos need to be reassured that they're enough and that you care for them. You've got to demonstrate your love because if you just assume that they know how you feel, you'll dead wrong and they'll be gone. You've got to treat a Virgo heart like the precious thing that it is with care and love.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
You lost him with your need for confrontation and conflict. You could never let anything go, you had to strong arm him into caving with every argument. Not everything is battle worthy but you got off on the fight. Unfortunately, fighting doesn't turn Libra on; it does the opposite. Trying to intimidate him into loving you backfired big time.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
You lost him when you lied to him. It didn't take a huge lie or even a bunch of lies, just a small, unobtrusive lie did the trick. Once he discovered that you lied to him, he began to doubt almost everything about you and decided that he'd never be able to trust you with anything, especially not his love. Lying is the quickest way to lose a Scorpio.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
You lost him when you tried to lock him down. You thought that you were being casual enough when you talked about a future together but he interpreted it as you demanding that he settle down and stop roaming the world. Sagittarians need their freedom and they need to feel that they can go wherever they want to go. You need to sneak up on them — get them already ensconced in your life before they even know what's happening.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
You didn't take him seriously enough. When he talked about financial security and building a foundation for a long-term partnership, it went in one ear and out the other with you. You came off as frivolous and as someone not interested in a serious relationship. He wouldn't have been with you if he was only interested in casual dating. Since you came off as a party-girl, Capricorn, he lost interest.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
You lost Aquarius because you weren't very supportive. Every time he came up with an idea, you shot it down instead of encouraging him to go further and dig deeper looking for ways that he could make it a reality. You didn't believe in him or his creativity and he felt as if you were denying his true self. Sometimes it's from the mistakes that come the true innovations. With a little encouragement from you, who knows what amazing thing he might have created.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
You lost him because you took advantage of his selflessness and used him for your own gain. Did you ever take him into consideration or was it always only about you? Pisces have very deep feelings and when they get hurt, it destroys them. It was all he could do to disengage from you and your selfishness.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One