Zodiac Signs With The MOST Emotional Baggage (And What Kind...)

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You can’t leave your emotional baggage with the concierge and pick it up later.

All of us have some kind of emotional baggage because it’s part of the deal of living. Every experience — good or bad, every person with whom you have a relationship with, and other things that you have no idea why they’ve affected you — has left a stamp on you. And when you consult your horoscope about how to deal, you might not get the answers you want.

Emotional baggage is just as much a part of our personalities as a sense of humor or having a talent for a musical instrument. You might not even remember some trauma that happened during your childhood and may not be aware how it affects you.

No matter how seemingly well-adjusted and healthy someone may appear, they’ve got issues, phobias, and sense memories of past injustices and abuses just like you do.

I was spanked as a child and when someone spanks me now, even in a playful way, it sets me off. It reminds me of being punished and hurt and those aren’t feelings I wish to recreate in my adult life.

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When we’re betrayed by loved ones, it may make us hesitant to get involved with someone new. Should we really take a chance that we may be hurt again? Is it safe to open our hearts when there’s no guarantee that the same pain won’t happen all over again? Perhaps it’s risky or foolhardy but we must try to connect with people on various levels even when we know it might go badly.

Watch the video below for tips on how to deal with your emotional baggage:

When we love someone, we must be accepting of their emotional baggage even if we don’t understand it or know where it comes from. As much as we want our partners to take care with our baggage, so should we with theirs.

You can’t deny that they feel something even when, to you, it makes no sense that they do. Even if you’ve known them forever, you don’t know everything about the experiences that made them who they are.

Here are the zodiac signs with the most baggage and what your partner carries with him.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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His emotional baggage is chock full of every time he failed, his losses, and his bad decisions. He lives to win so when he doesn't, it hits him hard. If he wasn't able to have a rematch or a second go at something, then he will carry that loss with him for a long time. He wants to be the best at everything and when he's not, he takes it personally as if the elements were against him. What may have been a fun game of tennis where you beat his ass, to him was evidence of something lacking in him.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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He's got a whole lot of resentment in his emotional baggage. He hangs on to whenever he's been treated unfairly; when he's been passed over for a promotion or dumped by a girlfriend, he remembers. His resentment is always there even if he never acts on it and his bitterness can live on.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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His emotional baggage is full of the opportunities he was too scared or lazy to take. He didn't take some lucky breaks seriously and paid the price afterward. If only he hadn't blown it off or had arrived at the appointed time, he would have been able to take advantage of the chances that were offered to him. He could just kick himself but since he can't, those missed opportunities are always there with him.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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Emotional baggage is right for his is full of every partner, every loved one, and everyone who took his loving heart and stomped on it. He feels the sting of betrayal and of trust broken. He remembers how it felt to be taken advantage of and to be played, and it influences every decision he makes. There may not be time enough to heal all of Cancer's wounds.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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Leo's emotional baggage is full of everything he went out for and didn't get. For example, if he's an actor, he'll remember every part he's auditioned for and the actor who got it. He knows logically that often times these things aren't personal and that sometimes he's not a good fit for something but that doesn't stop him from feeling as if he was cheated. He always does what he knows he needs to do and when it still doesn't work out, it annoys him to the extreme.

 

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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He carries every time he's been undervalued and underestimated around with him. The knowledge that there are doubters of his abilities and talents helps to spur him on. He wants to prove how wrong those people are who don't know that he can do practically anything he sets his mind to and that he'll never give up, even when things seem impossible.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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Libra's emotional baggage includes the times when someone got angry with him about something that wasn't his fault or when he was blamed and punished for something that he didn't do. He believes in justice and can't rationalize when he's treated unjustly.

 

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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He carries his grudges around with him. He never forgets a slight or a wrongdoing and revenge is something that is certainly in his vocabulary. He's not one to forgive and forget. He believes in vengeance and payback even when it may take time for it to happen.

 

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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His emotional baggage is full of the times someone tried to hold him back or tied him down. He can't stand the feeling of not being able to go where he wants or do what he wants. He dislikes feeling as if he has to defer to someone's else's wants or needs. He wants a life without restrictions and limitations.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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He prides himself on being reliable and it's the rare times when he wasn't and let somebody down that he carries around with him. He doesn't realize that sometimes life throws a curve ball and you have to improvise. Just because he missed an event that he promised to go, it doesn't make him a bad person. Sh*t happens. It's not healthy to constantly remind oneself of what you consider are your personal failures.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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His emotional baggage is full of all the times he was wrong and made a bad decision. When his experiments fail, he goes back to the drawing board and tries to figure out another angle to try, but when his relationships fail, he can't let go of them and move on, even when he knows logically it never would have worked out.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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He carries not only his own emotional baggage but other people's as well. Because he's so empathetic, he wants to help everyone and internalizes their struggles. When he can't help someone or tried to help someone and it didn't work out, he feels that failure deeply and it just becomes a part of him.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One

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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.