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How To Get A Divorce Without A Lawyer (And NOT Screw Yourself Over)

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Going it alone? Make sure you follow these three rules.

Divorce is expensive.

A typical divorce can end up costing you over $15,000, according to NOLO.com — even more if you have to go through divorce court.

You're splitting your assets — your money, your home, your possessions — and now you have to add about $250 an hour to pay an attorney to help?

The idea of getting a divorce without a lawyer seems rather tempting when the alternative is to spend thousands of dollars on a divorce lawyer.

But is it a good idea?

In our latest Expert Quickies video, Karen Covy, a divorce attorney and advisor, explains the 3 things you NEED to do if you're thinking of going through a divorce without a lawyer.

1. Get legal advice.

Obviously getting it straight from a lawyer is the best option.

But even if you don't hire a lawyer, find one to consult with so you know what to expect from the process, what legal rights you have, and what your options are.

 

2. Educate yourself.

Find out what the challenges could be with your divorce, and what things you need to be prepared to negotiate on.

You don't want to go into meetings with your soon-to-be ex and not have your act together.

 

3. Make sure you do your paperwork the right way.

This is the most important rule to follow.

Because the way in which you fill your divorce paperwork out, right or wrong, will stick with you forever.

Don't do it by yourself.

If you choose to get divorced without an attorney, at the very least use online tools to help you. It's not nearly the same, but it's better than if you do it alone.

You definitely do NOT want to take any chances of messing up your divorce

This is especially true if there are children involved.

 

As you can see, it IS possible to get a divorce without a divorce lawyer.

But it's not necessarily a good idea.

You don't have to hire the best lawyer and spend every penny you have on an attorney, but you should find someone to help you — be it divorce attorney, coach, mediator or advisor.

Getting a divorce is a life-changing process. Do you really want to risk messing it up?

 

If you need a little help getting through your divorce in one piece, our experts are here to help! Reach out to Karen for the support you need.

 

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