How To Get Out Of A Dating Rut FAST, According To Your Zodiac Sign

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You need to get your dating groove back.

Do you repeat the same dating and relationship mistakes over and over again? We can get into patterns where we know we need to change our behavior and how we handle things, and yet it seems as if we’re destined to continue repeating them.

How do you get out of a negative dating cycle?

You can promise yourself that you won’t continue falling for the wrong people and yet you find yourself still attracted to that bad boy that you know already has commitment issues. You wonder if it’s you. Maybe you’re the one who doesn’t want to commit to someone but you feel like if you admit it, people will think that you’re abnormal for not wanting what you think everybody wants.

It could be that when you’re in a chaotic or unsuccessful relationship, you feel comfortable; you've been here before and you know what to expect and how to handle it. The unknown is scarier to you than a toxic relationship.

 

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Are you stuck in a dating rut, always dating the wrong person and never attempting to break free of it? If so, it may be difficult to know what you should do to mix things up and break those patterns. Your dating rut may be completely not dating and spending your time taking care of yourself, putting your needs first. If you don’t fully love yourself, you won’t take the time to try to find someone worthy of you and will settle for second best or even someone completely inappropriate.

Some people are better suited to throwing old behaviors and ideas out and start fresh, while others find that too scary and prefer to take baby steps toward building a better relationship. Usually, those baby steps start with taking control of one’s own attitudes and expectations.

Here's what you do when you're stuck in a dating rut, based on your zodiac sign.

 

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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When you're in a dating rut, it doesn't mean you aren't dating, it means that you're not dating anyone exclusively. Your social calendar is full of group dates, events, and projects. You're almost never alone, never not doing something. You need to look at dating as a challenge or a game and take a risk. Look for dates in places you normally wouldn't look. If Tinder is your go-to then ask friends to set you up a few blind dates or take a class in something you've been curious about. 

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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You've got such a comfortable and cozy home life that when you're not dating somebody, you don't really miss it. In fact, you'd much rather have a glass of wine and watch a movie than go to some questionable restaurant and feign interest in a date. If you're not feeling lonely, maybe this dating rut should actually turn into a dating break. Don't worry so much about it and hopefully, it will work out when you least expect it. You've already had the foundation for a happy life, so there's no need to force some kind of love connection.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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If you're honest with yourself, you'll see that you've been dating people that you can see no future with. They're a distraction from your main issue which is that you're not ready to commit right now. You choose people who are completely inappropriate and who have their own commitment issues and then when it doesn't work out, you can say you tried.

But you didn't try — you gambled that they wouldn't eventually call you out on your issues and that they'd go away quietly. Try to find someone that you could see a future with and go from there. Take baby steps. No one is saying you need to commit to a long-term relationship right away, so maybe aim for three or four dates and see what happens.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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You get too needy too fast and suddenly all your date wants is to not be tangled up with you. You've been hurt and it's stuck with you. If you haven't been hurt, you certainly know people who have and you don't want it to happen to you. You tend to hang on too tight as if that will prevent someone from causing you pain and keep them close to you; however, being clingy works the opposite way: it makes people want to bolt.

Rather than dwelling on how you can be hurt or how you can prevent it, look at dating with a new positive spin. What will you learn about yourself with this person? What fun can you have? Is it okay if it's just a fling rather than something lasting? 

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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It's not that you have difficulty meeting people — you meet people all day long — nor is it that people aren't attracted to you. It's just that it's challenging for you to find that one special person amongst all your fans and followers. You need to expand your dating pool and date outside your dating circle. Go where no one knows you like online or with an app.

You feel more comfortable when you have a wing-person with you or date-backup but you're going to have to get to know someone on your own. Be safe, be wise but take a chance on the unknown. When they don't have to compete with all the people in your life trying to get your attention, they have a better chance of making a positive impression on you.

 

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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When you're stuck in a dating rut, it's usually because you've gotten stuck in perfectionist mode. No one you date is good enough for you or, on the flipside, you don't think you're worthy enough to date someone. It's a vicious cycle. You need to relax your ridiculously high standards, and instead of searching for flaws, be open to the positive aspects of their personalities and how they make you feel. Realize that you're flawed but that you deserve to find love just like anyone.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You tend to take yourself out of the date zone and into the friend zone. It's not that you don't think you're dateable, you just don't want to take the chance at getting hurt. Much better and much less conflict to head them off at the pass and designate yourself as their friend.

The problem is that when you make yourself the friend so quickly, your potential date will only see you as a friend nothing else. You've got to stop doing that and take a chance that someone will want to date you and see you more than a friend. Put some of your genius flirting ability to good use and make people see you as more than a friend.

 

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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You're not interested in getting out of a dating rut because you've put yourself in it. You're still obsessing over a previous love gone wrong and you haven't worked through it yet — it's a very long process for you. You don't really do casual very well and it takes a lot for you to form relationships. Sometimes it's enjoyable just to get out there and get to know new people. It doesn't have to be a big thing, it can just be fun because, honestly, you need to chill and let go of all your angst.

 

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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When you're stuck in a dating rut, you go into overdrive with your cheerfulness and upbeat attitude. You use the "If they like me, they're suitable dating" philosophy. The problem is you're constantly going out and meeting people (which admittedly you love) but you wind up alone and exhausted. It's just too much.

It might be a good idea to try taking a dating sabbatical for a while. In other words, slow your roll with the dating and stop making snap decisions.  You're very rarely lonely and you enjoy your own company so don't worry so much. Your problem isn't finding someone, it's finding the right someone.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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You tend to compare your life timeline to everybody else's. At this point, you should at least be engaged or married. It's a well-known fact that Capricorns tend to fall for the most inappropriate people they can. Sorry, but it's true. So, when you get all revved up, needing to find somebody to date right now, you put a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself and you make bad decisions.

Dating isn't a race and it's okay to take your time and be as methodical as you would with a work project. You do have choices when it comes to what you want in a partner.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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All it takes is one bad date for you to shut down emotionally, and suddenly, there you are dateless and without any prospects. Since you're incredibly independent, you convince yourself you doing you alone is the best way to do things, but you do get lonely and you want to have someone to share your life with.

Instead of stopping, you need to throw yourself into dating more. You needn't commit to every single one, just go out there and date all kinds of people, not just the people you'd normally be attracted to. Be innovative and try something new — maybe invent something or come up with a new game plan. Once you look at dating in a creative way, it will become more enjoyable for you.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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You're extremely trusting and it gets you into trouble when you're dating. You want to give everybody a chance, but some of those chances are undeserving and you end up getting hurt. You need to remind yourself that you're a catch and that anybody would be lucky to date you. It's okay to vet someone before dating them if they look shady or have done some questionable actions in the past. Take care of your heart before you put yourself out there.

 

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