Sorry, Tyrese, But I Do NOT Accept Your Apology For Slut Shaming Women

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Dear Tyrese Gibson, I Do Not Accept Your Apology For Slut Shaming 'Promiscuous' Women
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Please stop talking.

"They are never without a man because they don’t have no standards." — Tyrese Gibson

Actor and singer, Tyrese Gibson is currently under fire for the degrading comments he recently made about women. 

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In an interview with BET in which he was *supposed* to be promoting his latest film in The Fast And The Furious franchise, Tyrese decided to launch into an unprovoked rant about "promiscuous" women.

It started out kindly enough:

"For the women? I appreciate all the ladies out there that are still single, that are holding out. Don’t settle. Don’t settle."

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But it all unraveled quickly from there:

"Because I’m gonna tell you all right now, and this might be harsh. Sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps and overly aggressive promiscuous women, they are never without a man because they don’t have no standards. They ready to have sex with any and everything that want to have sex with them. But when you are single, and you actually love yourself, you know your value and your self-worth you hold out until God sends you what's yours."

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And if that wasn't bad enough (which, honestly, it was) he decided to keep going:

"So sometimes they be talking mess to women that are single, but I have a respect for them because if you’re single and you might say, 'I’ve been single for a couple years,'whatever the case may be, you actually holding out because you have your value. You have women that are active out in these streets, they going to lunches and dinners every night. Private planes, mega yachts, it’s cracking. They’re never without. However, it comes with a cost, you gonna put a lot of miles on yourself down there, come on."

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Put a lot of miles on myself down there? Seriously, that's f*cked up.

Who the hell are you, Tyrese, to tell women who are actively dating that they obviously don't value themselves.

So what if we want to date a few men at a time. It's called dating for a reason! Dating means I'm still single. I'm not attached to any one particular man (or woman) and I, therefore, have the right to sleep with whoever the hell I want.

That does not make me a skeezer, hoe, tramp ... or whatever other stupid terms you decide to hurl at women next. 

And talk about knowing our value? Men do not determine a woman's value.

 

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If men don't experience slut-shaming for sleeping with multiple women, why should women if we choose to sleep with multiple men?

We SHOULDN'T.

After receiving a backlash all across social media (and apparently at home from his own wife as well), Tyrese tried to smooth things over with this apology on Instagram.

 

My mother taught me better than this..... lesson learned in life you will learn that It's not always "what" you say, it's the "how" we choose to say it. For the record I'm far from a misogynist, a male chauvinist or flat out mean..... My intentions were there but my delivery fucking horrible.... And clearly all the way off.... And for that I sincerely apologize to all of the ladies... Even after this apology.... Some may likely decide to NOT forgive me.... Time and consistency heals all wounds.... Although I've been consistently for years speaking on these topics and some of the same words in my message, I have never experienced what I am experiencing right now. - I've been getting dragged and feel the heat from my poor choice of words and approach to my messages, trust me..... Please accept this as my sincere apology for my poor choice of words - Shit gets real when it goes from a social media dragging to my own wife giving me the side eye and coming at me, even she's not happy with the way I've conducted myself.... it's crazy how non-public figures can say and do some really dumb shit and it will stay amongst your family and friends or local in your hood.... When you have been an entertainer for 15+ years the whole WORLD is literally watching you grow up & learn, bump your head, make mistakes and evolve as the world watches.... This is a real lesson learned... This is not just a regular IG post for me. I want to truly say that I'm sorry, I'm not APOLOGIZING in an effort to be politically correct, I apologize as a man first for the things that I've recently said about choices women have the right to make, for the terms that I've used and the way I've come across. I was raised to think and feel certain ways, and I'm learning new things that combat those messages. I am not perfect or all knowing, nor am I the one to claim to be. I've learned things through experience which I share, and through these last couple of weeks, I've learned a lot through this well deserved internet dragging...... This is about a man owning up to his actions, taking responsibility, recognizing how to do better, and actually doing better. Ladies you deserve better...

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Although it's a "nice" apology, I honestly don't find it to be authentic.

The main problem I have this whole ordeal is the fact that this is NOT the first time Tyrese has made misogynistic comments about women. 

Just last month Tyrese took to Instagram to call out women to choose to go the route of plastic surgery.

That post has since been removed from Instagram, but here's a look at what Mr. Gibson had to say:

What Tyrese Gibson needs to do is keep his demeaning commentary about women to himself.

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Slut-shaming is wrong. Period. By and against both men and women.

Each of our sexual choices and activities are our own. As long as they are safe, sane and practiced consensually among adults, they should not be judged by others.

So do us a favor Ty — find a new topic for your preaching. 

 

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