It actually makes total sense, though.
There's not a week that doesn't go by where I'm not thinking about all of the qualities I want in my future husband, and I've probably done something similar since I was a little girl, even throughout the years when I declared marriage wasn't for me and even now when I'm not so sure it will happen at all.
And, the one constant that I dream of having a man who provides security in all areas of my life — of our lives — from making me feel safe to assuring me that we're in good financial standing (and if we're not, then assurance that eventually things will be okay).
Ultimately, I want a man who can lead, and anyone other than that is weak, in my honest opinion.
Of course, I don't expect him to lead all the time but I want to know that if he absolutely had to that he could.
I'm no damsel in distress. I'm just a Millennial woman who slightly subscribes to the innate chivalry that some now frown upon or find less than feminist.
However, it's not because feminism is flexible. There's actually new research that shows there may be more people who think with a similar logic — the logic of maintaining traditional gender roles within the home (to an extent).
After recently surveying a group of young adults, asking the same questions asked on a 1977 survey on gender relationships, the Council on Contemporary Families found that millennial men and women ages ranging from 18 to 25 still don't prefer egalitarian homes.
What's more, Millennials actually prefer it far less than the same age groups polled in the past, dating back to the 1990s.
Yep! In 1994, 44 percent of high school seniors agreed that men should be the breadwinner; in 2014 that number increased by 14 percent.
When asked about household leadership, 30 percent of those surveyed back in 1994 said men should make all the decisions concerning the household, while 40 percent of 18 year-olds took that position in 2014.
However, despite the Millennial attitude concerning male/female roles inside relationships, they still feel that women should still have the same opportunities in the workforce.
That may seem a bit counterproductive, but I sort of get it.
Researchers believe that feeling may be because of our culture's ability to support women's right to choose, while still understanding that there are benefits to traditional gender in a household.
As time progresses, we like to think that we too are progressing, and while that's totally the case concerning many of our cultural norms, there are some things that we've become accustomed to — age-old traditions and just plain ol' nature — that we're not willing to let our progressive nature break.
Yes, we women want equality, but I think there's still room for us to value and maintain certain gender roles (should we choose to, of course).
It's an animal instinct for men and women to attract opposites who could ultimately provide security through their roles.
As ridiculously outdated as it may seem, I understand that there's (sometimes) stability in gender roles, and while it's not entirely important that we keep them 100 percent, some tradition is just fine.
Although I aspire to make my own money and have a successful career of my own, I still find it attractive to have a man who can take charge and provide for his family.
That won't ever go out of style.
So, regardless of our desire to have a voice in the paths we choose, chivalry and alpha manliness should never be a total thing of the past.