You may be hard to love but you're worth it.
Difficult people may be hard to love, but that just makes loving them that much richer and sweeter. I pride myself on being friends with so-called difficult women, especially since I myself am a difficult woman.
When you describe someone as difficult it can mean many things: they’re not pushovers, they speak their mind, they don’t care if they’re liked or not, they’re demanding, they’re passionate about what they want and they do what they can to get it. Difficult means strong and someone who isn’t afraid to stand up to other people, even if they’re judged for it.
Women who are difficult may not be people-pleasers and that’s more than okay — it means they’re true to themselves, self-confident, and they don’t care if they piss people off. They know they don’t owe anybody anything.
When you’re difficult, you don’t have the pressure to pretend to be someone you’re not; you’ve already been labeled as demanding, ambitious, and unrelenting. You’re truly yourself and you are your biggest advocate because you stand up for what you believe in and you do what you must do to accomplish your goals.
Difficult women aren’t just a modern description; difficult women have been around forever but it’s now that we can appreciate them and not try to make them conform to the old-fashioned ideals of womanhood. Being passive or submissive just to make someone else feel more comfortable isn’t the goal of the difficult woman; it’s not her job to make you feel more at ease.
Because a difficult woman is fully capable of taking care of herself, she doesn’t need anyone to deal with her or handle her. If she wants to speak her mind in a loud voice, she will and she won’t need anyone’s permission to do so.
If you’re benefiting from being difficult, then continue, but if you find that it gets in the way of your happiness and finding love, then you need to take a closer look at your behavior. Here’s why you’re hard to love, according to your zodiac sign.
You've convinced yourself that you don't need anyone else in your life. It's true that you have a full and vital life on your own, but everybody needs some kind of love in their life. You don't want to find yourself lonely when you've finally exhausted yourself by working and playing too hard. If you don't want to be in a romantic relationship right now, that's okay, just makes sure to keep up connections you have with friends and family.
It's your inability to compromise that makes you challenging to love. Most relationships involve some kind of give and take. You're stubborn and you think you're always right which can scare people away from you. You need to compromise a little, maybe agree to go out for dinner where your date wants to go, try something new, and be a little more open-minded.
You're challenging to love because when things get serious you just walk away. It's not that you can't make a commitment, it's usually that you're afraid to. You don't want to talk about the future or where your relationship is going; you'd rather not deal with anything that will make you feel confined or tied down.
You're obsessed with your past and by the people who've hurt you. Your emotional baggage weighs you down and surrounds you, blocking any potential love from happening. You've got to learn from your past and then let it go. If you start by learning to love and accept yourself, it will be easier to accept love from other people.
You want everything your way, right now. Yeah, you're a diva and you think you're perfect. You want others to recognize and accept that you're a Queen. If you're honest with yourself and you look deep inside, you'll realize you're just as flawed and screwed up as everybody else. You're a leader but you don't want to be up on your high horse all by yourself.
You tend to be sarcastic to a fault and people may be afraid to get close if you come off as too negative. Nobody is going to make a move if they think you're going to make them feel like an a-hole. You know that the sarcasm is just protection, but the problem is that it's working too well. Not only can't anyone hurt you, they can't get close enough to love you either. You don't have to get rid of the sarcasm, just maybe tone it down a bit.
You think you can always do better. Yes, you're amazing and so charming but it's clear that you're always looking for a bigger name to talk to or somebody better to be in a relationship with. You don't have to settle, you just need to be clear about what you want in a partner, and when you find it, be grateful. There's always going to be someone better on the horizon — the trick is to find someone who you're compatible with on many levels and who won't ever bore you.
There's a part of you that thinks that anytime someone says, "I love you," they're lying... and you hate liars. You normally have excellent instincts and if you listened to your gut rather than your head, you'd know if someone was telling the truth when they tell you they love you. Remember, you're lovable and you deserve love, so start believing it.
It's so hard to catch you that it makes you difficult to love. You're here, there, everywhere and whenever things get serious and you must deal with some heavy emotional issues, you're gone. You don't want to waste time obsessing on the past but you also don't want to spend needless energy examining the present. You're independent to the extreme. You're open to new people, experiences, and places, but maybe you need to be open to finding and keeping love.
You have trouble loving yourself. You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself and when you don't love yourself, you'll never think that you're worthy of love. Sit down and make a list of all your good qualities and everything that you've accomplished, and you'll see that you're inherently lovable. Since you're such a hard-worker and so goal orientated, put yourself on your to-do list and start doing things that make you appreciate yourself.
You're not great at sharing your emotions, and by not sharing, you don't share them at all and you get extremely uncomfortable when others do. Everyone knows you're brilliant and excitingly unique but they find it difficult to get close to you. You need to start sharing things with other people, and not just your humanitarian causes; tell them things about your past, your family, and your dreams.
You're so busy helping everyone out that you put everything before love. It's great that you're generous with your time and creativity but your selflessness is getting in the way of love. It takes a very special person who will work extra hard to get your attention. You may be using your many acts of selflessness as a shield so that you won't get hurt again, but ultimately, you're not being fair to yourself. You deserve to be loved as much as you love others.