Some people are just cold.
Being emotionally distant can be detrimental and unhealthy to most of your relationships. When you’re distant, you might seem guarded and you take a while to let people in (if you ever do). You probably don’t really tell others what you’re feeling either, and you're pretty uncomfortable when it comes to talking about how you feel.
A lot of people don’t feel comfortable expressing themselves in dating because we’re all told that’s not the “chill” thing to do. We’re told that speaking honestly about our feelings and desires is "needy", and that caring too much makes you come on too strongly.
Some people also aren’t comfortable with being emotionally vulnerable because they are afraid of rejection, so they put up walls.
And then there are some people who are satisfied with being independent without many close emotional bonds. These people are dismissive of emotional intimacy.
It’s important to recognize when someone’s emotional distance is affecting a relationship, because intimacy and closeness are important elements in healthy relationships. So if you need some help, you can look to stars.
Some zodiac signs are more likely than others to be emotionally distant, and some are less likely to feel comfortable opening up right away. Continue reading below to see which zodiac signs are the most emotionally distant, because the first step is recognizing the problem. Or at least knowing what you're getting into.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
A Gemini woman is great at hiding her true feelings. When she is in a relationship, she might feel nervous or fearful about rejection, so she hides herself. Putting her walls down to let people in requires a great deal of energy for her. She is hesitant to display too much emotion or to express that she cares.
She doesn’t really like being alone, but she’s afraid of letting people see the most intimate parts of her, because she doesn’t take rejection well. She’s in great control of her emotions, and she can easily mask away her fear of rejection with emotional distance.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Virgos have good intentions, but they can sometimes come across as aloof. When a Virgo woman is in a relationship, she doesn’t like to take center stage, so she focuses more on her partner than on herself. This means that she will sometimes forget to express her own emotional needs within a relationship.
She doesn’t like when the spotlight is on her, so she keeps things to herself. She’s also very shy and won’t open up unless her partner puts in effort to make her comfortable. She might seem emotionally distant and difficult to get to know, but she’s definitely not emotionless.
When you take the time to get to know her and earn her trust, she will open up gracefully and the experience will be rewarding like none other.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorns are known for being, well, cold. A Capricorn woman is very pessimistic, and she’s usually dismissive of deep emotional relationships. She enjoys being self-sufficient, and she’s very independent.
Relationships are a lot of work, and she prefers to spend her time focusing on other things.
When someone is pursuing a relationship with her, she will seem very distant and difficult to get to know. She’ll easily shoot down the other person’s efforts to get to know her better.
She’s most likely just not looking for a serious relationship. She might change her mind later on in life, but for now, she’s not likely to open up too soon.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
An Aquarius woman is known for running from emotional expression. She's very aloof and unlikely to show her true feelings.
She is very independent, and she loves to be alone. She also tends to be very quiet. There's a very slim chance that she will open up to you.
When you get to know her in a dating context, she may initially seem distant and cold. She likes to be on her own, so she will feel skeptical about sharing her life with you and putting in effort to get close to you. However, if she feels comfortable enough around you, she will eventually start opening up on her own.
An Aquarius is a truly independent and progressive thinker, so when she finally chooses to open up, you two will have the most compelling conversations.