Quit your bad habit of falling for people who aren't good for you.
When you fall for the wrong person repeatedly, it’s more than a bad habit, it’s a trend. You swear that after the last disastrous relationship that you’ll be more mindful about who you get involved with... and then you do it all over again.
Are you so hypnotized by washboard abs that you can’t see when you truly aren’t compatible with someone, or can someone laugh you into a kind of stupor so you miss any and all red flags?
No one deliberately sets out to find the worst person for them, the person who will bring them misery and frustration. And yet, we often find ourselves feeling trapped by the poor decision we made when we decided to go for it with Mr. Wrong.
Is it your instincts that are off-kilter or do you ignore what your gut is trying to tell you? Often, we know that someone is bad news but we go for it anyway.
What about when everyone you know warns you to stay away from someone but you refuse to listen to them? What do they know anyway? It’s your life and your mistake to make.
We supposed to learn from our failed relationships and poor choices, but you have to wonder how many times you can make the same mistake and still learn from it. At which point have you learned the lesson you need to learn? Now it’s just sad and kind of stupid on your part to not go in a different direction.
As we grow older, we’re supposed to grow wiser. And yet, no matter what our age, we’re still capable of making incredibly foolish choices. It’s great to stand behind your decisions but not at the determent of yourself.
You're under the mistaken assumption that you should be with someone exactly like you, but in actuality, you need someone who is not your twin. No one is disputing that you're amazing, but you need someone who will steady you when you're jumping from one risky behavior to another, someone who can take it when you get impatient and who can smooth things over when you get blunt. Go for someone who is less high energy and more easygoing.
You don't follow your gut. Just because someone is good on paper it doesn't mean they're a good fit, but you get swayed by other's people's opinions. If someone is considered a good catch, that doesn't mean that they're the right person for you. Then after you've gotten involved with the wrong person, your stubbornness will kick in and you'll refuse to admit you made a mistake.
Since you're ultimately afraid of commitment, you get involved with the wrong person because subconsciously you don't want it to work out anyway. It's as if being involved with someone without substance is evidence that you'll never find someone that you can trust.
You're a very giving and caring person which causes you to fall in love with self-centered and needy people who don't give anything back. You need a relationship where the emotional support goes both ways. You can't be in a relationship where your well-being isn't being served at all.
As a leader, you think that your best kind of partner would be a follower, but a "yes" person isn't what you need. You should be with someone who can stand with you, not behind you, and who is as strong, courageous, and dynamic as you are. You truly need a partner in every sense of the word and someone who won't be afraid to tell you when you're wrong.
You can get swayed by perfection and then get disappointed when the person you thought was perfect ends up to be flawed. No one is 100 percent perfect, and if they were they'd be incredibly boring. You don't really want someone perfect, you're just trying not to put too much focus on your own imperfections. You tend to act from the head and not the heart. You're not perfect, your ideal partner isn't perfect, and love sure isn't perfect.
You don't want anyone who's going to criticize you in any way, so you tend to settle for someone who isn't a challenge and won't call you out on your issues. You need balance and being with someone who ultimately doesn't want you to grow and evolve is definitely out of balance. You need someone who is loving, caring, and romantic but who also has a backbone and isn't afraid of ruffling your feathers.
You like to get your own way so you tend to be drawn to more submissive and unassertive people. The thing is you love a good fight; it gets your blood racing and it makes you feel alive. You need someone who isn't passive but someone who will challenge and excite you.
It's all about the laws of averages with you. You can find something appealing about almost everyone you meet and people tend to want to be around you. Since you're kind of a "love the one you're with" person, you're not as discriminating as you should be.
Not everyone is a good fit for you and just because they're fun and attractive, it doesn't mean that they're the right person for you. Take some time and think about things before you give your heart to someone.
It's been said before but you're notorious for falling for the wrong kinds of people. You're usually such a good decision maker, too. Maybe it's because you tend to be so serious and work orientated that sometimes you just want to flip the script and go for someone completely inappropriate and wrong. When it comes to being involved with the wrong person, you go so far out of your comfort zone, it's ridiculous.
You don't enjoy when things get too emotional and intense, so you try to avoid those types of people who make you feel uncomfortable and out of control. When you have a relationship that's devoid of feelings and passion, you don't really have much of a relationship at all and it's ultimately very unsatisfying. You're good at doing things that terrify you, so now is the time to go for those people who make you feel a little out of balance.
You have an uncanny ability to find people who will take advantage of your selfless nature, fall in love with them, and let them use you again and again. You don't deserve to be punished because you're kind and compassionate. You need to find someone who loves and respects you, not someone who wants to manipulate you for their own benefit.