You just can't wrap your head around it.
Are there some things about dating that make you feel as if your head is going to explode? All the dating apps, rules, and advice are enough to overwhelm anyone. You want to make the best choices and not put yourself in an awkward or dangerous position, but you still want to have fun.
It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out on the dating scene or you’re an experienced dater — it always feels as if you’re beginning at square one and you must navigate the dating world as if you were an explorer in a new land.
Dating can be confusing AF and just when you think you’ve got it, something throws you for a loop and there you are again, struggling to find your way.
The dating rules seem to change with every person you meet. Should you always make the first move or should you wait it out to get a better idea of how receptive your potential date is? If you think too much, you might lose your nerve and then you’re stuck alone on a Friday night from making such a crazy dating mistake.
Although everybody thinks they’re an expert on dating, you question the validity of their information. You suspect everyone is getting most of their information from reality shows and chic flicks — and everyone knows how inaccurate those are.
You want to be honest with your profile on a dating app, but you don’t want to be so honest that’s it’s uncomfortable. You want to be funny but you don’t want to embarrass yourself in the process.
There are dating mysteries that confuse and confound you, and it’s easy to envy those daters who seem to do it without breaking a sweat. That’s not you — you break a lot of sweats and it’s not pretty.
Here’s what you don’t understand about modern dating and why you keep making so many dating mistakes, according to your zodiac sign.
You find it very annoying when people put out very little energy or effort when it comes to dating. They may indicate that they like you and that's where it ends. They don't ask you out or text you or anything.
It shouldn't be up to you to have to do everything. If someone wants to date you they need to take action — start communicating, plan a date, and at the very least doing some flirting. You don't want to date someone who is too lazy to do anything.
You hate not knowing where you stand. You've been seeing someone for a while now and you've been cool with taking it slowly, but at some point it would be nice to know where they see this friendship going. Are they seeing someone else simultaneously or are you exclusive? You don't want to be too in their face because you don't want to scare them away, but some answers would be nice.
You can't stand the mixed messages. They say they're not interested in a relationship and even though they know you are, they keep talking to you. They indicate that they can see a future with you but then say that they'll probably never want to settle down with anyone.
Their actions say that they want something real and serious but their words disagree. You can understand being torn by your desires but you can tell they're not being honest about what they really want.
The one thing that makes you completely confused is ghosting/benching. You deserve a good clean break, not have the person you're seeing slowly disappear. People need to be brave and let you know where you stand.
If they think that ghosting is a way to spare someone pain, they're dead wrong. It will take you much longer to get over someone who ghosted you rather than someone who broke up with you in a mature way.
You hate pretending to be okay with just being friends when you want more. Late night texts and Snapchats are fun as is the occasional booty call, but the truth is you want more. You don't understand why he doesn't want more, too.
You're amazing — just ask anyone in your friend squad. Is he so stupid that he can't see how awesome a relationship with you would be? You wonder how long you'll be satisfied with being just friends.
You hate being judged on your photo and profile. How can you show the true you with only a few words and a selfie? It's difficult for you to tell if they're compatible at all from their tiny bio, which you correct in your head for spelling and grammatical errors. You hate that they think they know you before they even meet you in real time. It's more than annoying, it's obnoxious.
You hate how people will say that they're looking for love but then panic when things start to get emotionally intimate. They're cool with sex but ask them about their dreams or their fears and they close up. You know that sometimes you have to take a chance and put yourself out there when it comes to love, so why is it so hard for other people to accept this?
You can't stand the liars — the people who say they're single when they've already got a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, and/or husband at home. If people aren't happy in their relationships they need to get out of them instead of playing you. If they have an open relationship, they need to be honest about it and let you decide if you want to get involved with them.
You don't understand those people who do their relationships mostly through social media. How are you supposed to interpret a "like"? You can't tell if they're being flirty when they comment or if they're just showing off how clever they are. If they "like" everything, does that mean that they like you, too? Who is supposed to make the first move and how do they do it?
You can't stand it when people freak out when you're direct about your feelings. You're too busy to play games and you couldn't be less turned on by the chase. It should be fairly straightforward: you say you like someone, they say if they return your feelings or not.
You're not suggesting they move in or that you get married right away. Seriously. People should be able to like other people without someone having a meltdown.
You don't have the patience for texting games and you don't have the energy to figure out the perfect emojis to convey your meaning. And then there's the whole time protocol. If you're sitting by your phone, you should be able to respond to a text right away. Why should you wait a certain amount of time? If you wait, you'll forget to respond and then you'll seem like you're not interested.
You're an affectionate person and you should be able to show someone that you like them without them shutting down. When you reach out, you want them to know that you're not needy, you're not thirsty, and you just want to get to know them. You like getting gifts and doing nice things for people and it shouldn't make you feel as if you're some kind of stalker.