What do you do?
A broken heart is no joke, especially when it was the last thing you expected to happen. Unfortunately, no matter how careful you might have been when choosing your partner or how much you worked on your relationship, for whatever reason it didn’t work out. You’re left to pick up the pieces of your heart and try to recover.
Just because your partner may not love you anymore, it doesn’t mean that your feelings immediately stopped as well. You have to figure out a way to fall out of love with someone and how to heal from your broken relationship.
Where once you were two conquering the world, you’re now left on your own to carry on. You don’t even know if you can get out of bed and go to work, let alone find happiness and have fun again.
No matter how horrible you may feel, at some point, you must deal with your feelings and try to recover. Life goes on, even if the last thing you want to do is to put yourself out there and move on.
Acknowledging the pain is the first step. If you pretend that you’re fine and shove all that pain aside, it doesn’t make the hurt go away. You should treat it as you would any mental illness. If you must be your own therapist, that’s okay if you can be honest with yourself about how you’re feeling and can visualize being happy.
They say that time heals all wounds and, to a certain extent, that's true. However, there’s no time limit on how long it can take you to get over a broken heart and heal and the wound that may never be completely healed. You may see your ex somewhere or hear something about them and feel a stab to your heart.
Hopefully, you’ll get to the point where you feel good on your own or with someone new and can look back and feel that everything worked out. Here's how the zodiac signs get over a broken heart and heal.
The best thing for you to do is to get out of your head and focus on your body. Distract yourself away from your feelings of pain and sadness and train for a marathon or get involved in community theater — anything that makes you think of anything other than your ex. Volunteer work is also good; you can make yourself feel better by helping others.
If you want to be friends with your ex, think of it as a long-range goal. Someday, not today, you can hang out with them as buds, but for now, cut off all contact with them. You need a fair amount of distance away from them in order to heal. Don't ask about them with your mutual friends, block them on social media, and if they text you, do not respond. If you have the makings of true friendship, it will survive being put on hold while you heal.
Remember all those social events you begged off so you could stay home and cuddle with your ex? Well, now it's time to throw yourself back into the social scene. You want to hit all the things you missed like parties, lectures, classes, and meetings. Find a meetup that appeals to you. The more new people you meet, the more you'll be able to see that your ex wasn't the only person for you — they weren't even the best person for you.
In the most positive and loving way that you can, embrace the fact that you may never get over them but that they're part of your story. They were in your life to teach you and did what they were meant to do. Try not to regret loving them because opening your heart is always a beautiful thing and you experienced something unique and amazing. Even if they didn't turn out to be your soulmate, you gained something from the time you were together.
You tend to put on a brave face for all the people that look up to you, but it's okay to be sad and share your feelings. It makes you human and vulnerable and will help others to work through their own pain. You don't need to overly indulge yourself in sadness, just be honest.
You are mourning the death of a relationship, so it would be bizarre if you didn't feel something. Allowing yourself to grieve will help you and others around much more than slapping a smile on your face and pretending everything is awesome.
Try looking at the experience from a purely intellectual angle. Study the differences between love, lust, and not wanting to be alone. Could this have been more of an almost relationship than a real relationship? You looked at them with love eyes before, but what happens if you look at them with a critical eye? Could you really be in love with someone who doesn't take their shoes off when they walk on a white carpet?
Instead of staying inside all the time sobbing, make a list of everything you put off doing while you were in love and do them. See the friends and family you neglected, do those hobbies that you didn't share with your ex, and visit places that mean something to you like the beach or the mountains. Get reacquainted with yourself and the things that you love.
You need to make an effort to detach yourself. You tend to throw yourself wholeheartedly into relationships and when they're done, you may feel as if you have no foundation and are flailing about untethered. They're not your concern anymore and you can no longer insert yourself into their life. Find a comfortable and quiet spot, and visualize wishing them well and letting them go.
Don't let this breakup affect your optimistic spirit. The best thing for you to do is to get away from any reminders of your ex, so plan a trip somewhere that you never went to with them and that you never talked about. Once you have a change of scenery and start to meet new people, you'll feel better. It doesn't have to be a world tour — even a short getaway will help. Change is always your best friend, so let it help to heal you.
Your instincts to immerse yourself in your work are good but don't beat yourself up when your thoughts will (inevitably) keep coming back to your ex and the pain you're in. Let yourself acknowledge that you're thinking of them, reflect on the whole experience for a moment, and go back to what you were doing.
If you don't allow yourself those thoughts and feelings, they'll just get more intense. The calmer you are and the more detached, the sooner their power to affect you will weaken.
Since you're brilliant, you try to see what it was that you were supposed to learn from this person. Could it be that you needed to learn how to be more in touch with your emotions? You've seen first-hand that you could survive even with feelings of sadness, pain, and anger. Now, you can open yourself up to stronger, more positive feelings such as joy, happiness, forgiveness, and ecstasy.
You use heartbreak as inspiration and do some of your finest work. If you're an artist, you use this energy to create amazing works of art; if you're not, you use it to grasp a better understanding of people and gain a finer appreciation of the human experience. You can relate better to fictional characters and to art. Heartbreak doesn't take everything away from you, it gives you back so much more.