You've got this adulting thing down.
Are you winning at adulting? No matter how together you may appear on the outside, on the inside you can be a big mess, especially when it comes to being mature and making the right choices about your life.
Once you get to a certain age, it’s expected that you’re in charge of your own life. Sure, you have people who will help you out when things get tough but, generally, you need to take care of yourself.
You must find a job, a place to live, friends, and you should discover ways to have fun that won’t deplete your bank account or affect your health.
It’s hard to be an adult and it can be tough to know if you’re on the right track. Are you making the right choices that enhance your life and enable you to take care of yourself? Are you doing things that help you to stay healthy and happy? Most importantly, are you taking responsibility for the things that you need to be responsible for?
What do you do when difficult situations arise? You can’t always call your parents to lend a helping hand when you need it. However, asking for and receiving the right kind of help is a sign of maturity.
Being a grown-up doesn’t mean you can constantly indulge yourself; it means knowing when to say "no." You can't get wasted every night and think that’s going to go over well at your job. You have to have discipline and make the not-so-fun decisions.
The good news is that you’re probably doing better than you think. With so much change coming at you, it can be difficult to realize that you have grown up and that you’re making a good life for yourself.
You know the things and people to hang on to and the ones to purge. Not every relationship is meant to last a lifetime and you know it's best to get rid of the toxic people in your life. You take action. If your job sucks, you line up a better one and then you quit the first job. If you have a bad habit or two, you try to detox yourself off of them. In order to make room for good things, you need to let go of the unhealthy and the bad.
You've made peace with who you are and you've learned to love yourself. You don't want to expend any unnecessary energy being someone who you aren't and you certainly don't want to give into those negative voices in your head. You are who you are and that's someone who is worthy and wonderful. If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem, not yours.
You're not getting drunk every night or every weekend, and you're no longer non-stop partying. It's not that you're not social or that you no longer enjoy people, it's just that you're more responsible about it. Moderation is key for you and you've learned that when you don't get blasted, you can enjoy having a one-on-one conversation even more.
You're managing your money in a mature and responsible way. No longer do you use retail therapy to make yourself feel better. If you're feeling as if you need help, especially with all the feels you have, you go to a mental health professional; you don't try to push it down with a new phone or a pair of expensive shoes. You don't have to go through that panicky feeling when the rent is due because you've already paid it... and you still have some money left over.
Dating is no longer a competitive sport for you and you're not just seeing who you can attract as a way to stroke your ego. You have standards and you know that while someone may be hot, they have to have something more than just a slamming body and a beautiful face. You don't want to waste your time being with someone who only gets you on a superficial level; you want substance and emotional connection.
You take responsibility for your problems and you don't play the victim. If something is broken, you fix it, and if you can't, you find someone who can. You don't sit there complaining that something isn't working; you deal with it head-on. If you aren't where you want to be, you do the research and you come up with a plan that shows how you can get there.
You try not to agonize over decisions anymore, and when it ends up that you've made a poor decision, you don't beat yourself up about it. You've learned to forgive yourself. Everybody makes mistakes and no one is perfect — you've realized it's pointless to dwell on it. You know that sometimes it's best to forgive yourself, accept responsibility for your failures, and move on.
You're excited about your life because you've found things to be passionate about. Maybe it's some kind of art or a business adventure, but whatever excites you creatively adds to the way you live your life. You're not someone who is content just being or having a boring 9 to 5 life; you need something that gets you inspired.
You're striving to do better and you're taking the big picture into consideration. You tend to make impulse decisions and assume that your life will fall into place, but you've been questioning your motivations and goals. You're now exercising more control and not being as careless and irresponsible — you now know that while something can be fun in the moment, it can also have lasting adverse effects and you need to thoroughly think before acting.
You're no longer working at places just to climb up the corporate ladder — you work at a job that you actually like. It's not fair to just do something for the sake of advancement. If you're miserable, it won't be long until management knows it. You know it's better to enjoy the work that you do and to keep your long-range goals by making smart decisions. No one said that the road to success had to be painful.
You're involved with an organization or a charity that allows you to feed your soul while giving something back. You're a humanitarian at heart and when you help to make someone else's life better, you feel happier. You know that for you, it's just as important to help at the soup kitchen as it is for others to train for a marathon.
If it were up to you, the world would be a simple place and you could retreat to your fantasy world without guilt. However, that's not the case, so you make it a point to keep yourself well informed. You're aware of what's going on in politics and the world and you have well-thought-out opinions about the issues. You won't let anything get by you nor will you be taken advantage of out of ignorance.