Dating has always been hard. Before the rise of the internet, you had to meet someone face to face first (the horror!) and determine if they were a good match. Speaking as someone who has gone on a LOT of disastrous dates pre-marriage, I can attest to the fact that there are some really obnoxious people out there. (I’m looking at you, Date #43 who forgot his wallet conveniently just as the $50 dinner bill came.)
But hey, we have online dating now so it should be easier, right? Well, not exactly. You can hide your not so desirable traits behind a computer screen, you can catfish, or you can just lay it all out on the table, which isn’t always a good thing.
The National Communication Association's journal Communication Monographs conducted a study to figure out what online daters prefer when they look at online profiles: Daters who are more open about their achievements or those who held back and were more selective in what they put out?
Four dating profiles were given to 316 participants. The profiles were of both men and women with the same education level, types of interests, and jobs; the only difference being some bragged a bit more about their accomplishments like graduating with honors as opposed to just graduating.
Ready for the shocker?
The profiles that bragged LESS about their accomplishments had a HIGHER rate of acceptance. OK, so that wasn’t really a shocker because who wants a douchebag talking all day about his or her greatness? Definitely not me; that's one of my major dating deal breakers.
What have we learned here? Be yourself! You don’t need to embellish your life achievements or talk about the new BMW you just bought with your bonus from your high-level job.
People prefer modestly, and you don’t need material things to get you a date. You just need to be you who are and that should be enough. And if isn’t, then you’re with the wrong person anyway.