Know this before you jump into a relationship.
We all want our relationships to be strong. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the beginning, middle, or solidly set in your relationship, you can have moments of insecurity regarding the strength of it. It’s practically impossible to feel 100 percent confident in your relationship all the time.
Think about how challenging it can be to know why you do or feel the things you do, and then add in another person. We continue to grow and change and our relationships should do so as well.
Sometimes those changes benefit and make our relationships more solid, and other times they can cause little cracks in the foundation.
If you’re lucky, you have someone that you can tell your relationship concerns to — someone who won’t judge you and you can offer you some insight. But it can be difficult to describe why you lack confidence in your relationship or why you're concerned that it might fail the test of time.
There are times where you may not want to admit to yourself or anyone else that everything in your relationship isn’t perfect. You know there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship yet you see your relationship problems as unique to you.
Although there are ups and downs in every relationship, we want ours to be strong enough to withstand any issues or problems, and sometimes we just must have faith in ourselves and our partner that we can weather the stormy times.
Confidence in your relationship and in your own ability to be a partner are both extremely important to lasting and healthy relationships. We have our own couple goals and visions of how we ultimately would like to see our relationship.
You probably have your own ways of building confidence and security in your relationship as does each individual of the zodiac.
Each zodiac sign has its own way of working on keeping their unions strong. Here’s how to strengthen your relationship, based on your zodiac sign.
You and your partner get physical all the time, and not just sexually active. You do sports together, and you compete with each other over tennis games, handball, and working out. You challenge each other to do things that are out of your comfort zone and you go on trips that work your body and improve your mind.
While you may have the occasional comfort meal, you try to eat healthily together and make sure to avoid foods that are bad for you. You know that the better you eat, the better you feel and the more energy you'll have. You don't want to be in a place where you feel terrible after eating something unhealthy and have it affect your relationship.
Instead of constantly looking around for something better or more exciting, you put your energies and focus on your relationship. You do things that make your life together interesting enough to keep you committed. You discuss, share, and communicate so that ideas, thoughts, and language become the things that keep you engaged.
It may seem like a little thing but you do something that strengthens your relationship daily: you express gratitude. You're grateful for the things that your partner does, the way that they support and listen to you, and most of all, how they care about you. You know that they're always there for you and you're grateful.
You take your partner into consideration. It can be easy to forget that when you're in a relationship there are two people involved, but you always remember to think about your partner's needs and desires. You use that information to help shape the things you do and the decisions you make.
You give yourself and your partner a break. You don't seek perfectionism on either of your parts and you forgive each other for your failings and mistakes. You practice kindness and vulnerability and the confidence in your relationship grows.
You try to keep the relationship balanced. When you are having a disagreement, you try to see things from your partner's point of view. Your instincts may be to avoid conflict but you know it's not fair to pretend that everything is fine when it's not.
So, you work on making a safe environment where you and your partner can be honest and the other person will know that you're not just being malicious, you're speaking from the heart.
You see your relationship for how it is and you don't compare it to previous relationships. No one can compete with an ex, especially when time has managed to blur the problems and conflicts that you had in the relationship with them. When you're focused on the here and now and deal with your relationship with your eyes wide open, the connection between the two of you becomes unbreakable.
It's not that you're constantly on and telling jokes, but you do use humor to lighten tense situations and to get your message across in a non-threatening way. Also, having inside jokes and things that only the two of you find funny reinforces the bond between you and your partner.
You aren't funny if it would cause your partner or anyone else pain, but that doesn't mean that you reserve your humor only when it's appropriate.
You make working on your relationship a priority. You can get consumed with work and make your partner feel ignored and underappreciated, so you make sure to take a moment each day to engage with your partner, even if it's just a text to let them know you're thinking about them. All positive attention that is directed at your partner and your relationship helps to keep your commitment strong.
You aren't that comfortable with emotion and you wish you never had to deal with it, but you know that your partner's feelings are valid and must be respected. You avoid being contemptuous of your partner and you never roll your eyes or sigh when they're expressing how they feel. You work on making them feel like their personality traits that make them unique are to be appreciated and treasured.
When things get challenging between your partner and yourself, you don't retreat to your fantasy world; you stay present and connected. You know that it's not only frustrating for your partner when you are tuning them out, it's disrespectful and hurtful. You are open to their suggestions for relationship improvement and you do what needs to be done to keep your bond strong.