13 Reasons Why Ghosting Hurts So Damn Much

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It's like the mother of all breakups.

Rejection hurts. And ghosting is a rejection monster.

According to Psychology Today, "social rejection activates the same pain pathways in the brain as physical pain. In fact, you can reduce the emotional pain of rejection with a pain medication like Tylenol."

But before that comes the mystery.

Why haven't they been responding? Are they okay? Mad at you? Busy?

Inevitably, if you like someone, they're going to stay on your mind. It'll haunt you to madness — well, not Tell Tale Heart madness, but certainly a big round of sadness!

Having answers right off the bat would make it so much easier because our minds tend to be crueler to ourselves, and quite creative about it too, especially as more time passes and the plot thickens, so to speak.

So, now you know the reason why ghosting literally hurts people.

But now let's get into the thoughts and such that comes with it all.

1. Ghosting implies that they don’t think you’re worth the respect.

You just don't treat people like that. It's disrespectful, and there's no way around it.

 

2. Ghosting implies you’re not worth a conversation.

This kind of piggybacks off of the last one. But this time, it's more about lack of caring.

 

3. When you're ghosted, you worry about what happened to them.

You briefly wonder if they’re dead ... until you see their new tweet, unless they block you.

 

4. Every time they don’t text back is a slap in the face.

Die.

 

5. It’s out of nowhere.

You get no warnings. It takes you by surprise so you don't even know what to do or think.

 

6. It leaves you questioning.

What was the problem? Why did they do this? Why would they do this? Etc.

 

7. You heavily criticize yourself.

What’s wrong with me? I must be an awful person. It’s probably because I’m ugly, or because of that birthmark, or ...

 

8. Ghosting sabotages your trust ...

... because they treated you like shit in the end. You think they know a person, and then they pull THIS.

 

9. It’s uncomfortable to talk about.

When people ask, what do you say? Why? Idk.

 

10. It feels shameful.

How did I let this happen? A lot of embarrassment comes with being ghosted.

 

11. You start to question if they were even real.

Was everything fake? Did I even really know him?

 

12. You lose respect for them.

And it stinks that you seriously cared about someone like that. They’re either an asshole or a coward.

 

13. Absolutely no closure.

Thanks for nothing. You’re on your own.

 

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