Some things are best left unsaid.
If you want to piss me off or at least get a strong reaction from me, tell me to keep my voice down; I find it incredibly annoying. I’m not even especially loud but it works my last nerve when someone says it to me.
I don’t remember if I was told to keep it down as a child by my parents, but I do know that I was often called out in grade school for talking. There was also one time when I was at a restaurant with some college friends. The restaurant wasn’t snooty or expensive — it was a small-chain restaurant, and when we were there it was at an off-hour so it wasn’t full with customers.
We were laughing when one of the employees, possibly the host, came over to me and said, “You have a very grating laugh. Could you please keep your voice down?” Huh? What? I’ve never been told that before or since that I have a bad laugh.
I know bad laughs and mine isn’t one of them; besides, we were all laughing. I remember feeling all kinds of feels. I never ate there again and when it ultimately went away, I was not unhappy.
There are some things that aren’t OK to say to another person and there are some very specific things you don’t say to a woman. Are we more sensitive? I think so, but that doesn’t mean our reaction isn’t appropriate or justified.
There are some things that people say that you just shouldn't, and it seems obvious to others not to utter those words. Trust me, no one wants to be called "ma’am." And don’t assume that it’s a great idea to call someone the C-word (unless they let you know they’re OK with it in advance or they’re British).
However, all these phrases probably shouldn't be said to anyone, especially women and trans women.
Never tell an Aries woman "no," especially if it's in response to anything she asks you to do or an invitation of some kind. Aries women like to be active, to compete, and to go on adventures. If you refuse, she's going to think that you're too low energy for her, and if you're already in a relationship, she may start to rethink if you're the right person for her.
Just don't say "No." Another bad thing to say to an Aries, "I'll sit this one out."
What happens when you say to your girlfriend/wife/mother/sister, "You ate that whole thing?" or the ever-popular, "You're still hungry?" Um, either all hell breaks loose or she files it away and adds it to the list of grievances she has against you.
Do not question a woman's appetite, even if she's 100 pounds. It's nobody's business what or how she's eating and she sure doesn't need you to comment on it. Plus, Taurus really enjoy their food and you could take some of that joy away with such obtuse questions.
When you're dealing with a Gemini you already should be careful with your words; this sign is all about communication and they care deeply about using the right word at the right time.
That said, do not say, "Don't take this the wrong way," because that immediately puts them on the offense and they're sure to do exactly what you just said not to do. Nothing that follows that sentence will be heard with an open mind.
Cancers are highly emotional and that's often a very good thing as they're compassionate and sensitive to others. But that sensitivity is double-sided, and they can react strongly even to something you thought was completely inoffensive.
One of the worst things you can say is, "Are you on your period?" When you say this to a Cancer (or any woman) you're suggesting that they're being overly emotional or reacting erratically and they'll see red. You know what else not to say to a Cancer? "Why are you always so moody?"
Leo women are dazzling and spectacular and they take pride in their appearance. Well, why shouldn't they? Every time they enter a room, all eyes are on them. But it's not just the way they look that's captivating, it's their intelligence, humor, and fire.
They have no problem being the center of attention, so it's in your best interest not to say, "Is that what you're wearing?" Not only are you insulting Ms. Leo's taste and judgment, but you're being controlling as if using reverse psychology will get her to change in some way. You can't control a lion and not expect their claws to come out.
Virgos are intellectual, diligent, and intelligent. They love to research and fix things and solve problems, especially problems of the intellectual kind. So, never say something like, "You ask a lot of questions" to a Virgo; they'll just find someone else to talk to and they'll start to think of you as not too bright if you can't see the worth of questioning.
Obviously, if you'd had some answers, they wouldn't need to ask so many questions, and if you understood their excitement at learning, you wouldn't be so unbelievably thick.
Libras like things to be light and fun with everybody getting along. They like to avoid getting upset if they can and strive for harmony and peace. Therefore you don't want to tell them to "Calm down."
They probably were fairly chill until you said that and now their blood is boiling. When someone tells you to calm down, the usual response is to punch them in the throat. It's one phrase that almost guarantees the opposite response than the one you're looking for.
Scorpios are sexy, passionate, and powerful and they know how hot they are. However, they can get extremely jealous when provoked or even when that's not your intention. Don't say to a Scorpio, "You're right — your friend (insert name here) did look hot tonight."
You can say her friends are cool, funny, or even nice but don't comment on their appearance, even if your Scorpio woman did. It's a test and you will fail. If you lie, you fail; if you tell the truth, you fail. You like her friends but you only have eyes for her.
Sagittarius love their freedom and have a wonderfully optimistic and happy way about them, but they can turn dark when you say something like, "That's your mother talking." Oh man, comparing most women to their mothers, especially in a negative way, is something that you do not want to do.
You have no idea what kind of relationship they have and no matter how well you know the woman you're speaking to, you don't know the kind of complications and issues there are in that relationship. Also, it's not a good idea to say that she reminds you of your mom; no one wants to be just like someone's aged mother.
Capricorns are hard-working and tend to be focused on creating a strong foundation for their future and the future of their family. They work too hard and often forget to take vacations, but they can't help being reliable, dependable, and ambitious. It would not be a good idea to tell one that they "look really tired" as they don't need to be reminded of that and it will probably just annoy them.
Let's say that you want to make amends for calling her worn out and suggest you go out to dinner. Another misstep would be to ask if she could pick up the check this time. If she thinks you're broke, she's not going to want to have anything to do with you.
Aquarius is special and is unlike anybody else in many ways; they're very accepting of other people's quirks and idiosyncrasies. However, certain things are still going to set them off.
One sure way to piss off an Aquarian is to say something like, "My ex liked Bruno Mars, too." Avoid comparing her to any other woman; she enjoys being unique, and you're implying that she's like someone else.
Pisces are compassionate, kind, and creative. They can't stand seeing pain in others and will do their best not to cause pain. They'll give you the benefit of the doubt even when you don't deserve it, so don't say things like, "You're crazy."
You shouldn't say that to anyone as it offensive to people, especially those struggling with mental illness. When you say that, it's an instant conversation stopper and it immediately makes her feel as if it's pointless to continue talking, as everything she says invalid and shrouded under a curtain of insanity.