3 Traits You Must Have To Attract A Boyfriend, According To Research

If you don't naturally have these 3 traits, you can fake them.

By Rebecca Jane Stokes — Last updated on Jul 24, 2023

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Well, it's here.

The secret code to figuring out how to attract a boyfriend and ensnare him forever has finally been cracked.

And thank god, am I right?! Wasn't this the world's greatest mystery? How to attract a man of your very own?!

Anyway, according to a 2017 survey, in order to be viewed as desirable, you need to have these traits.

Here are 3 traits you must have to attract a boyfriend, according to research:

1. A positive attitude

2. Balanced extroversion

3. Confidence

If you happen to embody these three personality traits, you are set. Everyone will desire you now.

Penis and vagina will just arrive on your front door (hopefully with people attached) and you won't ever have to worry about being funny or thin again because you are the perfect human being to attract a romantic partner.

Yeah.

So here's the thing.

As much as I hate this stuff, I'd rather be told that the three things a person needs to have in order to attract a partner were stuff like:

A perfect body, round, c-cup boobs, and a good tan.

Why?

Because those are things I can achieve.

I mean, they require extensive plastic surgery and a permanent membership to Tan Vegas, the tanning place down the street from my house.

But they are physically possible.

If you, like me, were born without these three personality traits (are there people born with "balanced extroversion"?), what are you supposed to do?

Just accept the fact that some study has deduced you're going to die alone.

It's tempting, but there's another option:

You fake it.

Studies have shown that there is actually science that supports the "fake it until you make it" philosophy.

It works by convincing your brain that one thing is true, by acting like it's true.

Eventually, your brain is going to think it's true. Stupid brain.

So why not fake the three traits needed to get a man (or however they're selling it)?

Here's how to fake these traits that attract a boyfriend:

1. Accept that things are going to happen

It's not in my nature to be Susie Sunshine, at least not always. If something is going wrong, it's going wrong, and I'll acknowledge it.

So what if the next time my boyfriend is late to the movies and I've already bought the tickets instead of going "Great, I wanted to see this movie!" I said, "Well at least we're together," instead?

It's not a lie, I am happy to be with him.

Yeah, I wanted to see the movie in question, but talking about that now doesn't help anything or change anything. So instead, say the positive thing. Believing it will come with time.

2. Make sure you have planned alone time

Trust me. I'm the queen of introverts. My idea of a wild time is getting a full three back-to-back days by myself where I don't have to put on pants or talk to another living human.

But being social is a necessary evil.

Do you want to date? Do you want to meet people? You have to put on your pants and leave your house.

I have found the best way to fake this one is to schedule your alone time.

Make sure you have the day or days you need to yourself marked off on your calendar.

The other days you can be a socializing fool knowing that in the not-so-distant future, you have some solo pants-free time coming your way.

3. Everyone is insecure

Truthfully, I don't think anyone is really confident.

I think we're all born feeling totally insecure and awkward and we think we aren't supposed to be this way so we pretend to have our stuff together, to go smiling big into rooms full of people talking about our various accomplishments.