Lead by example.
Do you wish you had more romance in your life?
It’s a common complaint for both men and women. If you’re struggling to find a partner or if you’ve been in a committed relationship for a while, you can become aware that it’s been a really long time since anyone has swept you off your feet.
As you watch romantic comedies or see new relationships popping around you, it’s hard not to think, “Why can’t I have that?” “Why isn’t anyone buying me flowers, writing me poetry, or looking at me that way?”
We all WANT to be desired, whether we’ve found a significant other or not. But how can you jump-start a resurgence of romance in your relationship or everyday life?
It all has to start with YOU.
YOU need to make the laws of attraction do the heavy lifting for you.
If you’re not familiar with the laws of attraction, it’s a philosophy that’s often paraphrased by the saying “like attracts like.”
Basically, the energy we put out into the world attracts energy of a similar polarity. So, if you’re radiating nothing but pure negativity, the universe will sense this and send negativity right back at you. (Fortunately, the same law applies for positivity too.)
There might not be any hard scientific data that “proves” the law, but there have been countless books (including The Secret) that have written on the subject, largely because, as a philosophy, it makes a certain degree of sense.
The laws of attraction are all about the idea that you get out of the world what you put into the world, and that idea works for romance as well.
If you’re feeling a lack of romance in your life, ask yourself this question — are you being romantic?
Are you making your partner swoon? Are you writing them poetry, organizing picnics, standing outside their door with a boombox and a Peter Gabriel cassette at 6 am?
Because if you’re not working your butt off to bring romance into the world for someone else, why should anyone do it for you?
Romance isn’t something you should just sit back and passively accept. Romance, ideally, should be a two-way street.
If you’re feeling that your life is devoid of romance, the best way you can remedy that problem is leading by example.
You need to show the universe HOW you want to be romanced by putting a similar romantic energy out into the world.
Show your partner EXACTLY how you want to be romanced.
Pamper them, boldly declare your love for them, organize heartfelt outings.
Granted, you need to tailor your gestures to their personalities. If you love massages and your significant other can’t stand them, don’t schedule a couple’s massage just because you want them to know that you REALLY want more massages in your future.
You need to show them the same care and personal attention that you want them to return to you.
Step up your romance game and inspire them to reciprocate in turn.
And, if you go to all that effort and they don’t return the favor, that’s the universe telling you — maybe this relationship isn’t going to give you what you want.
The laws of attraction aren’t just about attracting new people or experiences to you. They’re all about finding ways to attract the things you want (or that you need) into your life. Including love.
If you need more romance in your life, put more romance out into the world.
It’s a simple strategy that can pay off handsomely when you find the right partner.