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The stars know what makes you feel insecure in your relationship.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Dec 29, 2016
You think your relationship is going along smoothly when seemingly out of nowhere you hit a road bump and you must try to figure out how to deal with the problem without having your entire relationship fall apart.
Many things can happen in a relationship which can trigger our insecurities. The challenge is not to let your insecurity take over and blow up the relationship so that there isn’t any way for it to be saved.
Everybody has their own set of insecurities, even if they’re extremely confident. They may bury them deep and not admit they have them, but no one is completely immune from doubts and worries — especially about important things such as relationships.
The problem with insecurities is that if they’re not dealt with as they come up, they tend to grow and get more intense with each flare-up. Your partner may not know or understand why you’re reacting a certain way, and the insecurity can turn small misunderstandings into huge relationship-threatening battles.
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You can become aware of what triggers your relationship insecurities and learn the best method for you to handle them. Sometimes, thinking back into your past and trying to discover where the insecurity began can be helpful. Therapy is an effective way of discovering the root of the insecurity and for learning how to diffuse the power it has over your life.
If we learn how to handle our insecurities, we can avoid repeating the same destructive behavior.
There are times when we don’t have the ability to see outside of ourselves and look at our characteristics dispassionately, and that’s when astrology can help. Since each sign has its own set of traits, the stars can help you identify and develop a better understanding of your insecurities and their triggers.
Here’s what triggers your relationship insecurities based on your zodiac sign.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
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When you start to worry that being in a stable relationship will make you boring is when your insecurities start to kick in. Remember that you can be just as adventurous and spontaneous in a relationship as you were when you were single. You don't have to become sedentary just because you're happy.
Your challenge (and we know you love a good challenge) is to find fun things you can do with your partner. Also, you can do things solo; you're not losing your freedom or independence because you're a part of a couple — it's just that you have someone to come home to.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
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If you see your partner looking at an attractive person, that can trigger your insecurity and make you feel insecure about your own attractiveness and jealous at the same time. The best thing you can do to diffuse the situation is to talk about it with your partner and ask them if they found that person attractive.
Don't make a big issue out it; ask a couple of questions and then drop it. Now, if they're constantly checking out other women/men, then you need to have a more serious talk.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
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Everyone knows you as care-free and charming, but when you're comfortable in a relationship you allow your partner to see the real you and that can lead to all kinds of insecurities. What if they don't like the real you? What if they're not up for the challenges that an open and honest relationship has?
You have to make peace with the fact that no one is on 24/7. If people really love you, they love every part of you and that includes the down, dirty, and real parts.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
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If your partner seems to be withdrawing from you or isn't giving the relationship the attention you think it deserves, you will go to your insecure place. You have a huge reserve of understanding and you're going to have to use it now and find out why your partner is less available to you.
The reason may not be as bad as you think. They might be working on a big project or having issues with a coworker. The best thing you can do is to open the lines of communication with your partner and find out what's really going on. If it's a short-term issue, you can live with it; just distract yourself with your own project. If it's a long-term issue, it's still good to know what you're dealing with and if it's time to let the relationship go.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
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You're extremely confident and self-assured, but you still expect a certain amount of praise from your partner and the minute you start to feel you're not getting enough attention from them, you get insecure. You can't give them the power to destroy your confidence and sense of self-worth; you need to get it from yourself.
Praise and compliments are nice, but they're not necessary to live. Believe your own hype; you're really that amazing and you don't need anyone to confirm it.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
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Since you tend to hold yourself up to impossibly high standards, it's not surprising that you sometimes start to feel that you're not good enough for your partner and that you're not doing enough in the relationship. The first step is to try and cut yourself some slack.
No one is perfect and here's a little secret: your partner loves the unique little quirks that make you who you are. Try to relax and center yourself and trust that the imperfect you is perfect enough for your partner.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
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There are times when even the happiest people feel down, and just because your partner isn't smiling ear to ear, it doesn't mean that your relationship is over. You need to give them whatever they need to feel better, whether it's alone time or comfort.
Let them know that you're there for them and that you understand. Don't try to force them into a good mood but let them work out their feelings in their own time. While you seek harmony, even you have mood swings. Don't use their emotions as an excuse to find someone else.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
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You can be a bit of a control freak and you like to know exact what's going on with your partner at all times. You need to relax your grip on them and give them some room to breathe. You get intense and it can be difficult to constantly feel as if you're under surveillance in your own relationship. Relax and try to feel secure in the knowledge that they're their own person and love you best when you allow them their freedom.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
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If your partner fails at putting on some large displays of affection at key points in your relationships, you can start to doubt the validity of their commitment to you. Your partner isn't you and they're not a mind reader.
Some people actually don't enjoy birthdays and your significant other may think that's the way you are, so stop thinking it's that they don't care. You need to let them know what you want and what your expectations are.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
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You can get insecure in your relationship if you think that your partner is less financially stable than you are and is using you for financial gain. This is a horrible feeling, but you can't let this override what your instincts are telling you. You know your money is very safe and that no one is going to con you out of it. Trust that your partner loves you for you and not just for your financial support.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
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You like to have an air of detachment and that's true even with relationships, so when you really start to care about someone, your insecurities come out. Yes, you may get hurt and you may feel uncomfortable, but think of what you'll get in return: a true joining of souls, companionship, and the feeling of being loved. You're usually OK taking risks and loving someone is a huge one so try to embrace it.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
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You sometimes worry that your partner isn't being honest with you and is cheating on you. You may have been cheated on in the past and it's hard not to worry that it's going to happen again. The best thing to do is to remind yourself that the relationship you're in now is completely different than any you been in before.
You should give your partner the benefit of the doubt and trust them. You were careful going into this relationship, so trust yourself that you made a good decision. If your partner turns out to be unfaithful, know that you're strong enough to survive. Just because you're emotionally sensitive doesn't mean you're not emotionally strong.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
