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You can't ALWAYS be the hottest.
By Madelyn Rennie — Written on Nov 04, 2019
As much as we’d all love to be the apple of everybody’s eye, it doesn’t really work that way. There will always be someone better looking than you, smarter than you, more popular. It’s just the way it is.
But what do you do when it’s your own boyfriend who is clearly more attractive than you? It’s a tough pill to swallow. I mean, congrats to you on snatching yourself up a good one. But, on the other hand, it kind of blows to feel like you’re the lesser of the two in your relationship.
There are a lot of things that could be going through your head when you feel this way, but in relationships where the man is better looking than the woman, you may be thinking the following:
1. Wait … so what’s wrong with him?
You might be thinking that there’s actually something wrong with him and wondering what he wants with you. There must have been some sort of short-circuit disconnect in his brain that magically made him believe you were worthy of his sexiness. Either that, or you figure his personality must be heavily flawed, or some other area apart from his physique.
2. So then what the h*ll is he doing with me?
Eventually, you come to the realization that he’s actually pretty perfect — inside and out. So, if there’s really nothing wrong with him, then why is he even with you? Your inner self-consciousness comes out, and your mind can’t help but run circles around it nonstop. You start to question all the positive things you’ve thought about yourself and begin overthinking every little negative thing you’ve ever thought of.
3. Is he going to leave me for someone better looking?
Naturally, all of your insecurities start surfacing one by one. Before you know it, they’ve reared their ugly heads and are coming at you full force. You start to envy all the beautiful blondes and busty brunettes. Everywhere you go, you can’t help but wonder if your boyfriend is checking out the other girls in the room, thinking about what it would be like to be with one of them instead of you.
4. How do I get myself on his level?
So, the next course of action makes a ton of sense — how do you make yourself as beautiful as he is? You know it’s not going to be easy — I mean, it might not even be possible — but it has to be worth a try. You can’t just sit around and wait for your beau to realize how much better he could do.
5. Am I ever going to be good enough for him?
Once you determine how much time and effort it takes to make yourself remotely attractive, you realize that it’s just not going to be that easy. You feel hopeless and worthless, like no matter what you do it’ll never be good enough for your boyfriend. You can’t even think of a single attribute you actually like about yourself.
Hopefully, you won't let these negative thoughts eat you alive and destroy your relationship. (Yes, it happens.)
Try to remember that you are your own worst critic, and the way you see yourself is NEVER the way others see you.
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