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"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
We’ve all heard that quote that’s often attributed to Albert Einstein (though some people dispute it), and yet we often repeat behavior thinking that it will be different this time. Much of the time, the behavior that we keep repeating has to do with our relationships.
Are we destined to continue making the same relationship mistakes forever, hoping that our partner will be able to overlook it or won’t find it a dealbreaker?
As humans, we mess up — we ruin perfectly good relationships or we test the strength of the bonds we’ve formed. We’re usually not even conscious of what we’re doing and it’s only in looking back at our behavior that we realize it wasn’t the best course of action.
Each of us has our own challenges and habits when it comes to the way we see and interact with the world around us. Somehow, we must learn how to overcome our failings and weaknesses.
We all make relationship mistakes — sometimes tiny ones and other times huge ones. Most of the time, we learn from our mistakes and move on, ready to make more mistakes. However, there are times when our mistakes morph into issues that can’t be easily remedied or solved.
No matter how detrimental a mistake might be, we can’t let it overwhelm us. There are times when you’re not even aware that you’re making a mistake or that it’s one you’ve done several times. If you’re not aware of the error, how can you correct it?
Astrology can enlighten you to the type of behavior that you tend to do, and it can help you to find ways of accepting yourself. Here’s the top relationship mistake you continue to make, based on your zodiac sign.
You try to change him. Well, you're not interested in anything or anyone who stays the same and you love a good challenge. The problem is that real change comes from someone realizing that they can and want to do better for themselves. If he changes just because you want him to and because you can't accept him for who he is, he's going to end up resenting you.
The relationship mistake you tend to make is that you pretend you don't want what you really want. You say you're cool with a relationship with no strings, but you aren't.
Although you have the best intentions, you tend to do something (like cheating) that breaks his trust. A good man has high standards; he's going to want to be able to trust you and know that you are being honest and on board with him. You get bored easily and like a variety of partners, so if commitment isn't your thing, don't lead him to believe that it is.
Home and family are very important to you and when you begin to feel close to someone, you try to tie them down and often it's way too soon for that. Remember: one date isn't enough to decide that this person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Besides, many people enjoy a bit of the chase; if you show all your cards too soon, they've got nothing to play for and you may scare them off.
You sure do like to be the center of attention, which is why it's no surprise that you tend to create drama instead of memories. Many men do their best to avoid drama and prefer things to be more laid back and casual. Besides, there's enough drama and conflict in life without you manufacturing some.
You're brilliant at drawing out your partner and then using that information against them. When you do that, it doesn't make them want to get closer to you, it makes them want to run far away from you. Stop trapping them with their own issues and remember you don't have to always read between the lines.
You're so trusting and gullible and it's kind of sweet how you always believe your ex when he tells you that he's changed. Yes, people do change but generally, the selfish, immature, cheating types don't — they just work on hiding their less-than-desirable qualities.
You get so caught up in the way someone looks that when they reveal themselves to be flawed and imperfect individuals, you lose interest. And the moment the relationship goes from being a fairy tale to real life, you tend to back away, not willing to do the work it takes to form a successful and healthy relationship. Don't be so superficial — everybody's looks fade and relationships take effort.
You're so optimistic that you tend to miss the signs he's losing interest or that the relationship isn't working out. You make excuses for the fact that he no longer shows up with flowers or a bottle of wine. Sometimes, it's best to look honestly at the state of things and cut your losses.
You tend to downplay your success to protect your partner's ego, and this can lead to a lot of tension in the relationship. You need to be proud of what you've accomplished and it should inspire him to work harder all on his own.
You love people who are artistic and unique, but the problem is that sometimes what you interpret as creative is really broken or mentally ill. You can try and excuse their bad behavior as them just being inspired, but then you recognize they've got problems that you can't fix.
You're a hopeless romantic, and you tend to fall hard and fast before getting to know the objection of your infatuation. Then when reality starts to creep in, you're devastated and you start to retreat to the fantasy world in your head. Reality doesn't always bite, so slow down and think things through before throwing yourself into a relationship.