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From the balls to the tip, we've got you covered!
By Slutty Girl Problems — Written on Dec 01, 2016
Many women consider giving a blowjob to be a chore or work — quite literally a job. If you’re a beginner, blow jobs can intimidating at best and painful at worst.
Yet, blow jobs can also be incredibly enjoyable — even for the giver — if done properly, comfortably, and with enthusiasm. It doesn’t have to be all cringing and gagging with pubic hairs caught in your teeth!
Here are 10 ways to rethink how to give a blowjob he’ll be dreaming about for a long time to "come" ...
1. Wash up.
If you’re concerned about any funky scents or tastes down there, simply hop in the shower! While you’re at it, give him a trim to prevent any stray hairs if you feel so inclined. Showering can be a fun way to work in some foreplay and get clean.
If you want to get right down to business without a wash, use a warm wet towel to gently stroke your partner. It will feel great for him and get the job done before you get to work.
2. Assume the most comfortable position.
Do you really want to be on your knees on a hardwood floor for 20 minutes? No way. Take a moment to get comfortable, because you’re going to be here for a while.
Whether you’re kneeling on a carpet, laying on the bed, or laying down with your head hanging over ... start with comfort first. Then feel free to switch it up at any time!
3. Learn your partner’s specific pleasure spots.
Everyone is different, and what’s hot for some may be a total boner-killer for another. Find out in advance what your partner likes, and change up your routine to fit their preferences.
While you’re down there, ask, “Do you like that? Should I go faster or slower? Would you like more or less hands?” You can also get feedback through his moans and movements.
4. Learn the basics.
Start with your hands stroking his member. First, get his penis wet by licking him from base to tip, then put the whole thing in your mouth. Keep him angled toward the roof of your mouth to avoid your gag reflex. Close your lips around his shaft, being careful to avoid your teeth.
5. Get creative with your hands.
Use your hand as if it is an extension of your lips. You can move up and down alongside your mouth, or gently twist your hand for additional sensation. Alternate between gentle strokes, harder pulls, and slightly pumping fingers.
6. Switch it up.
Alternate your strokes, licks, and sucks around his most pleasurable spots. Run your tongue along the underside of his shaft, flick it along the ribbed edge, and swirl it around tip of his head. Try to take the entire thing into your mouth, even if it’s just for a second.
7. Don’t neglect the balls.
The family jewels are a huge pleasure zone, but often get ignored. Gently massage them in one hand, and move your fingers to alternate between the two balls. If you’re adventurous and your man is well groomed, give them a lick, then a gentle suck, and then take the whole ball into your mouth, gently. Those babies are sensitive!
8. Explore your deep throat.
Deep-throating isn’t for everyone, but if you’re down to conquer your gag reflex and give your man an experience he won’t forget, it’s definitely worth putting your fears aside and giving it a try.
To achieve this party trick, suppress your gag reflex by pushing your tongue down and opening your jaw wide. Slowly work your man’s member toward the back of your throat, moving your hands out of the way. Keep him there for a second to enjoy the sensation.
9. Know where you'd both prefer he "finish."
This is a question every girl has asked herself when coming to the grand finale. It’s really controversial and ultimately comes down to personal preference.
If you are comfortable with your partner and don’t mind the brief taste, give swallowing a try. If you’re totally grossed out, offer him another option. You could spit, or tell him to finish somewhere else, like on you instead! That’s a hard offer for a guy to deny. Just be sure to have some tissues handy.
10. Make it enthusiastic.
Whether you’re male or female, there’s nothing worse than hooking up with someone who views it like a chore. If you genuinely want to please your partner and show them a good time, act like it! Smile, laugh, be enthusiastic and happy. Don’t act pouty, tired, and bored.
If you’re going to be a Debbie Downer, skip the BJ all together and settle for “movie night” in your PJ’s ... again.
This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.