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WHOA.
By Rebecca Jane Stokes — Written on Nov 22, 2016
You know that awful feeling during sex when it becomes clear that you aren't having an orgasm?
You might be horny as hell, and your partner might be super attentive, but no matter what you do and no matter what they try, there is no orgasm in your immediate future.
Well, it turns out, according to neuroscientist Adam Safron, that there is a key to making DAMN sure you have an orgasm every single time you have sex.
It's no magical sex position, and it isn't trying some fancy new sex drug.
Safron's solution is simple.
He says that in order to guarantee a woman has an orgasm her partner has to maintain his rhythm.
It's a simple as that!
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Safron says that prolonged, repetitive stimulation is necessary for a good orgasm during sex.
This stimulation puts your body in a trance-like state called neural entrainment.
The idea is that putting so much focus on stimulation guides your body naturally into a state of orgasm.
Believe it or not, Safron says it's a mental state not all that different from what happens when a person has a seizure.
Only, you know, it's sexier and less terrifying.
To get all science-like about your orgasm, Safron says: "Synchronization is important for signal propagation in the brain, because neurons — a specialized cell carrying nerve impulses — are more likely to fire if they are stimulated multiple times within a narrow window of time"
In other words, the right rhythm can be the secret for how to have an orgasm during sex.
So what happens when the stimulation is there but the rhythm is off?
You know the feeling. He's moving you around too much, or trying some fancy moves, or maybe she's practicing the alphabet on your clitoris with her tongue...
Turns out that your mind interprets those signals as a sign that it's time to reset your brain!
In other words, if your partner's rhythm is off, it might actually be HARDER for you to orgasm than it would be if they would just keep it simple and focus on consistent rhythm.
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This, I posit, is why it's always good to have sex with some pop music playing..
Pop music doesn't seem like your natural first choice fro sex music, but does it keep a beat and a rhythm that's impossible to resist? Oh very much so.
So turn up the One Direction and get your orgasmic freak on, guys and gals!
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May the rhythm be with you.
