The 5 WORST Sex Positions For Orgasm (And How To Fix Them)

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The 5 WORST Sex Positions For Orgasm
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Don't let your favorite position interfere with your O.

By Jamie Hergenrader

To state the obvious, you can have mind-blowing sex without also having an orgasm. The skin-to-skin contact, the views, sounds, and the emotional connection you might feel with your partner are all part of the package.

But when given the chance, who wouldn’t want the added bonus of a big O when you’re getting busy?

Problem is, some sex positions make an orgasm hard to come by.

The biggest reason: "Many men prefer sex positions where they can control penetration and often these positions are not clitoral-centric," says Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist. And since more than 80 percent of women are reliant on clitoral stimulation during sex to orgasm, that's no bueno, she says.

But it's time for you to start calling the shots, friend. Boost your chances of reaching the finish line with these tweaks and tips to hit all the good spots, even in some notoriously orgasm-wrecking positions.

1. Missionary Position
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Missionary

Watching your man grind on top of you and making eye contact can be super sexy. But your clitoris is usually left out of the action, says Van Kirk. Translation: no O.

The solution: Flip things around by lying on top of him with his legs outstretched. When you’re riding high, rub your clit against him as you move. Or, regardless of who’s on top, you can add a vibrating penis ring into the mix so you’ll both reap those buzzy benefits.

2. Reverse Cowgirl Position
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Reverse Cowgirl

Just like with missionary, your clit is missing out on some love.  

The solution: Use your hands or a vibrator to stimulate your c-spot while you move, says Van Kirk. And while you’re getting off, he gets a great view of you in action. Win-win.

3. Standing Sex Position
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Standing Sex

Doing it vertical style is hot in the movies, but logistically challenging IRL. Your heights and the angle of penetration just aren't very orgasm-friendly, says Van Kirk.

The solution: Prop one leg up on a chair or another piece of furniture to combat the height difference, and open your legs wider so that your guy can wrap his arm around or under you to stimulate your clitoris during sex. You can also low-five yourself from this angle if he's not doing it for you.

4. Doggy Position
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Doggy

Like the others, there’s no easy clitoral contact with this sex position, and some women report that their partners go too deep while doing it doggy, which can be painful, says Van Kirk.

The solution: Let your partner know he's going too far, or place your hand at the base of his penis to limit his penetration. "This is a good position to find the best way to stimulate your G-spot," says Van Kirk. "Your best bet is to have him use short, quick, consistent thrusts," she says. And if you’re looking for some clitoral action, you can reach back with your hands or a vibrator.

5. Spooning Position
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Spooning

It’s a favorite for mornings when you’re feeling lazy, or for some close-contact action, but it doesn’t provide the best angle for your orgasm, says Van Kirk.

The solution: While you’re spooning, raise your top leg up and hold it or rest it on his top leg, she says. That makes it easier for you or your guy to reach your clitoris. Bonus: Instead of having him inside you, he can thrust his penis between your closed thighs, so that his tip comes in contact with your clitoris.

 

This article was originally published at Women's Health. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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