No, it's not you.
Have you ever had a guy throw you a giant curve ball only to get freaked out when you actually freak out? Even though every other level-headed person in the world would also freak out??
Then out of nowhere, he tells me that he's thinking of moving across the country. Oh, okay cool.
Obviously, I was hurt.
Obviously, I felt unimportant. Obviously, I felt sad because him moving meant we were probably going to break up.
Spoiler alert: we did, but not after he freaked out on me for getting so upset "over nothing."
There were hundreds of times during our never-ending fight over the next few weeks where I questioned my sanity and my motives and wondered to myself if I was being more sensitive than I should. If it wasn't for my friends and family constantly reminding me that I was in fact, not being crazy, but reacting like a normal human being, I might have let him win (which by the way meant we would continue to date like nothing was wrong until he moved at the end of the year, which then we would part ways forever).
So if you're not as lucky as I was to have that support system, let me play the role of your conscious for a brief moment: you're not being crazy; you're just dealing with a lot of bullshit.
If the guy you're with is purposely messing with your head, it's going to feel like he's messing with your head. When the fights get so ridiculous that you have a hard time explaining it another person, you need to take a step back.
When you start to feel like your life is a Lifetime movie, and you start to empathize with the women who run over their boyfriends with a car, then you need to remove yourself from the situation immediately.
Like, pack your bags now.
We all have the potential to be driven to the edge of sanity, and romantic relationships are a great way to get there. Add manipulation in with some intense emotions and it's a miracle we all haven't gone bonkers.
The best thing you can do for yourself in these scenarios is to chill. Like turn your phone off and escape to your bedroom for a few days.
And not matter what happens, don't ever stay with a guy who makes you feel crazy all the time or says you're crazy when you call him out on HIS bad behavior.
You deserve some peace — and some sanity.