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Blow his mind with your words.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart — Written on Jul 17, 2021
The other night, I was drinking with a former sex partner of mine. We're both single once more, and I was mulling over the idea of being with him.
I told him that I missed a certain skill he had in bed. He then told me the reason why he misses sex with me so much: it was that I knew how to beg for sex, and how I spoke before, during, and after the act.
How do you beg properly?
After probing a little bit, I found out what guys really want girls to be saying in bed and how to beg during sex.
1. Tease them before the act.
A little bit of sexting apparently goes a very, very long way. Teasing can definitely increase sex drive and make the two of you horny for each other before even having sex. Even something as simple as telling them that we're thinking about them can make them go gaga.
2. Tell them what makes them so hot.
Most men are legitimately starved when it comes to compliments. Go ahead, tell them that their butt looks amazing. Tell them that you love feeling their hands run over the curves of your body. They love that stuff.
3. Tell them about the fantasies you have.
Something they will gladly tell you if you beg them is their deep and dark fantasies, even the kinky ones. They want to hear about your inner freak, and about the crazy things you've never done but are willing to do with them.
4. If you want to really make him feel special, ask him about his fantasies.
Most women never answer this question, and if you think about it, that's really sad. Sexual fantasies and fetishes are kinky things guys like you'd know.
Guys do deserve to feel like their interests in bed matter, so go ahead and ask him. You might find out that he has a lot of interests that line up with yours.
5. Before you get into the bedroom, tell him what you're wearing underneath.
Whether it's lingerie or nothing at all doesn't matter. What does matter is that this is a universal language for, “I'm ready.”
6. When you're doing dirty things, moan.
From what my former flame told me, it's scary how unusual it is to hear a girl sound like she's seriously enjoying herself. So, girls need to learn how to beg sexually through moaning. Make a little noise when he does something you like. It's a good way to make him feel appreciated in bed.
7. Gently tell him what you want.
If you want him to pay some attention to your nipples, tell him. As my guy friend put it, “Men aren't mind-readers. We need girls to tell us what they want.”
During sex, you have to tell your man what you want and what feels good because then that'll turn the both of you on and get the two of you closer to achieving an orgasm.
8. Make him feel like a god and say his name.
The sweetest sound a man will ever hear is his own name being moaned by a girl he likes. It's the ultimate way to say how you feel about him.
9. Beg for it.
You have to learn how to beg in bed for sex and for some guys, hearing a girl beg (but not desperately) is their personal kryptonite. It's surprising how many men really get off on a girl asking to perform oral sex on him or asking him to sleep with her.
10. After it all, tell him it was awesome.
Guys have fragile egos. Pet their egos, and they'll love you forever.
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Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer based out of Red Bank, New Jersey. She writes primarily about lifestyle, food, finance, and relationships. Follow her on Twitter.