Slow burn moves that'll heat up your sex life.
By Krissy Brady
You might think that "lazy sex" is a symptom of a struggling sex life, but it can actually be awesome, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. "Lazy sex is often the best kind of sex because you can really relax, let go, and sink into the process of arousal," he says. "And this doesn't necessarily mean that your partner's doing all the work. Both partners can take it slow and easy."
Sounds hot, right? Here's how you can get in on the action with (almost) zero effort.
With lazy sex, it's more about slowing down, not worrying about how you look, and using uncomplicated positions, says Kerner. Focus your energy on who's the giver and who's the receiver, he says. When you're free to fully enjoy your guy's skills (and vice versa), you both may experience your biggest O's yet. Sharing is caring.
Keep all of your sex-related swag (think: condoms, sex toys, and lubricants) handy by storing them in a bedside drawer, says Jill McDevitt, Ph.D., sexologist at Swiss Navy lubricants. With your goodies easily accessible, you won't have to waste energy hunting for what you need.
Sure, tearing each other's clothes off like animals makes for a steamy romp, but slowing things down can be just as much of a turn-on. "Have your partner slowly, erotically remove each piece of clothing," says Jane Greer, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. "As the suspense builds, so will the excitement of physical touch," says Greer.
The more layers you wear, the hotter it is. So break out the sweats and hoodies.
Take the express bus to O town by using a vibe to get warmed up or by asking your partner to talk dirty to you pre-sex, says Greer. If you'd rather get to the point than pregame, tell your partner in explicit detail what you'd like him to do to you, and then kick back and enjoy.
If you're giving head and want to be lazy but effective, have your beau lie on his side with his bottom knee bent 90 degrees, keeping his top leg away from the action, says McDevitt. Use his thigh as a pillow to keep your neck and head supported as you give him a BJ. Then, you can rock his hips back and forth to bring his penis in and out of your mouth, instead of bobbing and sucking, she says.
Enjoy lazy doggy style by lying face down with a pillow or two under your pelvis to keep your butt tilted at the right angle. Leave the rest to your S.O.
You can also give lazy sidesaddle a try: Lie on your back, legs closed and bent at 90 degrees in a tabletop position. Lay your legs to one side as your partner penetrates from the top, as he does in missionary. "There's room for a lot of thrusting and nipple stimulation," says McDevitt.
By adding porn to the mix, you'll get to enjoy the perks of hot and heavy sex without actually having to get hot and heavy. Instead, lie side by side, and manually stimulate each other, says Kerner. For maximum efficiency, have your guy use a small, palm-sized vibrator.
This article was originally published at Women's Health. Reprinted with permission from the author.