This may come as a bit of a shock.
It feels terrible to be cheated on, but learning that your husband/spouse has been having an ongoing affair is even worse.
One indiscretion is difficult enough, but knowing that your partner missed important family events to be with another woman is excruciating and is the ultimate betrayal.
When a man has a mistress, it's more than an indiscretion — it's a continued relationship and the man has to make choices.
Whether they're financial or emotional, somebody is going to get hurt.
Most women don't set out to become mistresses, they just find themselves in that position one day.
Perhaps they fell in love with the man before they knew that he was married, and by the time the truth had come out the woman was already invested in the relationship.
One thing to remember is that if your mate has a mistress, it has nothing to do with how you are. You must never blame yourself; it's your husband's failings, not yours.
You have to decide if your relationship can be repaired or if the affair destroyed it forever.
Many men with mistresses do everything in their power to keep their affair and mistress a secret, and it can be hard to discover the truth.
If you suspect that something is just not right in your relationship, what can you do?
You can hire a detective or do your own investigating. You can also use a critical eye to look at your husband's behavior towards you and your relationship.
There are times when a man takes a mistress who is completely different from their wives, and other times the mistress can seem like a carbon copy of her.
You might wonder if there's a certain type of woman your husband might be tempted by, and that's where astrology can help.
The stars know what kind of woman he'll take as a mistress. They aren't saying he'll take one for sure, but if he were this is the type he'd be likely to have an ongoing affair with, according to his zodiac sign.
The kind of woman an Aries would take as a mistress is someone who is successful in her own right. She doesn't need anyone and is very independent. She's very sexually adventurous and the Aries man will feel that she keeps him on his toes.
A Taurus man would never cheat unless he had completely fallen in love. If he takes a mistress, he's probably planning on marrying her at some point. The type of mistress for a Taurus is someone who loves luxury and is very sensual. She's one of those women who enters a room just oozing of sensuality and sexuality. She doesn't have a lot of female friends, and will be very devoted and a bit subservient to her man.
Unfortunately, Geminis don't have a good reputation when it comes to cheating — they're good at it. They like having a lot of different partners and mental stimulation. The kind of woman a Gemini will take for a mistress is very smart, brilliant even. She's an amazing public speaker and possibly a doctor or college professor. He likes being with her because not only can she keep up with him, but she surpasses him in intelligence.
The Cancer's mistress is also his therapist, mommy, and caregiver. When they're together he spends half the time complaining, whining, and being an emotional wreck. The Cancer man treats his mistress like he treats his wife and, in a way, that's the greatest betrayal of all.
The type of woman that a Leo would take as a mistress is a woman in power who can help his career. He feels like she really gets him as she is constantly complimenting him. His mistress is very good at sex and always surprises him in bed, and then says how amazing he was by putting the focus back on him.
This may be a positive or a negative depending on how you look at it, but if your Virgo man is having an affair, you probably won't know it — they're that mysterious and discreet. The type of woman a Virgo will take as a mistress will appear to be perfect, as Virgos tend to be perfectionists. She'll look great, be smart, and will make the Virgo man feel wanted and admired.
Libras are great at keeping things compartmentalized so that both women in his life feel loved and nobody gets hurt. The type of woman a Libra takes as a mistress will be polyamorous and very charming. She's into spirituality and new age kind of stuff. The Libra man may lie to his mistress to make her believe that he has an open marriage.
Scorpios aren't big cheaters and they don't like to lie, so if they have a mistress it's because of some compelling reason, such as a wild sexual kink. The Scorpio mistress may be a dominatrix or some other kind of sex worker. She's not afraid of his sexual appetites and she doesn't hesitate to try and satisfy him.
It's not easy to get a Sagittarius to commit, but when they do they're usually faithful. However, if they're feeling like their relationship is getting stale, they may feel justified to have an affair. It wouldn't be out of the ordinary for a Sagittarius to have a number of women in different cities all around the globe, especially if his job requires travel. The Sagittarius' mistress may not even know that she's someone's mistress and may not be complacent with his deception.
Capricorns are honorable so they'd sooner leave a relationship than cheat. However, if they were to take a mistress, she'd be completely opposite of his wife. When Capricorns stray, they pick highly inappropriate women. She'd be irresponsible, flashy, promiscuous — someone that, in Capricorn's mind, needed saving.
Aquarius are only going to cheat if they think their partner is cheating on them. The type of woman they'd take as a mistress would be very smart, unusual, and creative. This woman will keep the Aquarius man guessing about almost everything, especially about her feelings. She'll be very unemotional and calm.
Pisces men love to have secret love affairs, so it's not unlikely that they'd have a mistress. The kind of woman that Pisces would take as a mistress would be very confident and self-centered, so the Pisces man could devote much of his time to pleasing her.