Ever realized your man only seems to be excited about religion mid-coitus? Well, there's a reason for that, at least according to scientists who studied the connection between spirituality and the bedroom.
A team of researchers at Duke University recently published a study about oxytocin, the "love hormone" that's typically released during certain events: childbirth, breastfeeding, and yes, definitely during sex.
While oxytocin is a naturally occurring chemical in the brain, it does increase at certain times, which can help give you that fuzzy, bonding feel.
Something interesting that researchers discovered about oxytocin, though? It also seems to be the drug responsible for the support of spiritual beliefs.
In fact, during a trial to test this reaction, men were given either a dose of oxytocin or a placebo, and the men who received the real deal were far more likely to claim that spirituality was important to them, even though not all of those men had stressed that same importance prior to receiving a dose of the "love hormone."
Ultimately, they ended up also expressing sensations of being more connected with living things and a sense of unity with others. Oxytocin encouraged incredibly beneficial emotions in the men who received the dose, but some were not driven quite to that same ethereal extreme. Some men, who expressed a deep sense of spirituality, had a gene — CD38 — which regulates oxytocin's release in their brains, making the reaction "amplified" and more intense.
Though women produce oxytocin in higher levels than men do, the connection between spirituality and female reaction to the drug has yet to be tested.
While a person's spiritual beliefs may be very important to them, it is interesting to know that it can be intensified or weakened by the release of a natural hormone. Love really does change your perception of the world, whether you're aware of it or not.
So ladies, before you think about telling him you've got a headache next time he wants sex, think about the fact that men actually experience bonding and love through sex because of the release of oxytocin. Your body may produce more naturally than his, so it's important to stimulate his sense of wonder — and connection to you — with a heaping dose of the love hormone. When you think about the effects of oxytocin, it also starts to explain why sex is so important for a man to feel loved by his partner.
So there you have it. Sex really does drive a man to his knees... But I'm pretty sure he won't mind if you hold that against him.