He Didn’t Deserve Me Then And He Doesn’t Deserve Me Now

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Never forget.

There’s a weird thing that happens when you put a decent amount of time between you and your ex. You stop forgetting about the bad and only remember the good. 

Stepping outside the drama of your relationship is necessary to figure out if you guys are really meant to be.

But once a breakup happens, and time has passed, things can never just go back to the way they were. And you’re kidding yourself if you think that they can. 

Something has to change. The way he treats you has to change. 

If you’ve had some time apart, chances are you already recognized what it was about the relationship that wasn’t working. Maybe he wasn’t nice to your mom or never respected your career. Maybe he treated you differently around his friends. 

Whatever the issue was, you have to make sure you don’t forget it.

And when he comes back — because let’s be real, they always come back — make sure he doesn’t forget it either. 


When you care about someone, you have a tendency to look past the issues. You can easily put aside whatever it is you’re feeling hurt about for the sake of you both being together. 

Please don’t.

Please don’t take three steps backwards after you just took a huge leap forward. 

It wasn’t that long ago that you realized that you weren’t being treated the way you deserved to be treated. And instead of waiting around for him to change, you made the change. 

You left.. 

So if your ex is declaring a fresh start and making a whole lot of promises, take your time before your jump back in.

Make sure he makes an actual effort to treat you better before you let him back into your life — and more importantly into your pants. 

If he really wants you back, make him do something about it. 


He says he’s going to be nicer to you in front of his friends? Go hang out with him and his friends and see how he actually is. And do it four or five times to make sure he's serious.

He says he’s going to make an effort to be more romantic? Tell him you’re not committing to him physically or emotionally until you see a consistent amount of romance.

Because if he really wants you back — if he really wants to make it work — then he’ll do the work. 



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