The More You Hate Being Single, The Longer It Takes To Find Love

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It's practically science.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten myself excited about the possibility of a new guy, only to be disappointed hours later when he goes completely MIA. 

Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don’t, but that initial 24-hour ghosting period always knocks you down. The excitement is over, he’s not as obsessed with you as you thought he was, and you’re more than ready to call off love forever. 

I know. We all want to stop looking. We want to find the one. We want the wait to be over. 

But we don’t get to make that happen, and the more time we spend being annoyed over what we can’t control, the less time we spend actually enjoying this independent part of our lives (that could be a lot of fun if we just calmed down and embraced it). 

We always think the grass is greener on the other side. We’re sad and alone, and everyone who’s in a relationship is blissfully happy. We want it to be our turn already damnit. 


But what we fail to realize is that nothing’s perfect. People in relationships fight and having to worrying about someone else's feelings all the time gets old. They have to make an effort every day to make it work. It’s not all sunshine and roses, and sometimes people in relationships wish they were single like us. 

The only way to be happy right now, is to enjoy what we have — right now. 

You have yourself, and you get to be entertained by all the lame dudes that will blow up your phone for five minutes and then be gone for a year and half. 

It's time to stop taking it all so seriously.

One day there will be a guy who comes out of left field and into your life when you least expect it. You just have to stop expecting it. 

Stop wondering if every guy you meet or flirt with is going to be the next guy you date. Treat them all like friends you're slightly attracted to, have fun and let the rest fall into place. 

The more energy you put into feeling bad about being single, the more likely you are to remain single. Or worst, you’ll end up with a guy who isn’t right for you. 


Do yourself a huge favor and let it all go. When you start to think about a guy you like and daydreaming about the future, just breathe in and say to yourself: “That would be cool, but I’m okay with whatever happens,” and breathe it out. 

You’ll be so much happier — and chiller — when you do. 


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