If he does this stuff, he's trying to get you to dump him.
Relationships can be one of the most comforting, nurturing experiences that you can have in this lifetime. They can liberate you and make you become a person, but they also can turn into a personal prison. The problem with some relationships is that the potential fallout from a breakup can be enough to scare some people away from finally cutting the cord on a toxic relationship.
This is especially true with men, who often don't know how to handle a girl's tears, anger or freakouts. Are you worried that he's over you and wants to dump you? These signs might point to some pretty bad news.
1. He shoots down any communication you try to spark.
If all of his answers are single-word replies, it's a bad sign. If he regularly makes no effort to try to tell you anything about his day, or if you literally have to wheedle information out of him, he's done. He doesn't view you as his friend and confidant anymore. He's stonewalling you because he wants you to leave him alone.
2. Sex is now a thing of the past, or he won't sleep with you unless he's drunk.
Men are very physical creatures. This means that they tend to show their affection physically. If he can't bring himself to have sex with you sober, and if he's stopped initiating, the relationship has been done for a while.
3. He no longer tries to argue with you.
A man who wants to save a relationship will actually argue with you if he feels like there's a major issue that needs to be addressed. If you're noticing that he's stopped trying to argue over things that ticked him off, he's already checked out of the relationship.
4. You noticed that he sighs around you... a lot.
Sighs are often a way that people convey boredom, exasperation, or even just frustration. If he's that frustrated with you, it's a sign he's already done with trying.
5. He stopped spending money on you.
Back when you two first started going out, he always had cash to spare. Now, despite having no added bills and getting a raise, he's always broke. Whether we want to admit it or not, we tend to avoid spending money on people who we don't care about. In other words, when a man's interest declines, so does the amount of money he spends on you.
6. You have to walk on eggshells around him because he's gotten so irritable lately.
This is a sign that the relationship needs to be over, even if you have to be the one to pull the trigger. When a guy becomes so easily angered that you literally have to tiptoe around him, it's no longer a healthy situation.
Being forced to walk on eggshells a sign that the relationship is overboiling with resentment, anger, and hurt. Do yourself and your partner a favor, and leave this toxic mess before it consumes you.
7. He stopped caring about significant dates.
Remember how your partner used to remember your birthday and anniversary? Yeah, the keywords here are “used to.” This kind of forgetfulness is often symbolic of much deeper issues.
8. He stopped being careful with your things, or even goes out of his way to break your stuff.
You can tell how much a person respects you by how much they respect your property. If they stop giving a sh*t about treating your possessions nicely, it's a sign that they no longer respect you or like you. If they go out of their way to break your stuff, it's safe to say they are trying to get you to leave them.
9. He stopped talking about long-term plans, or has put major long-term plans on an indefinite hold without reason.
Does he get snippy when you ask him about a wedding date? If you can't recall the last time he tried to initiate a couples' vacation or talk about moving in together, it's a sign that you might be dealing with a guy who's over this relationship and waiting for it to die.
10. He picks fights with you over seemingly inconsequential matters.
This is an indicator that there are much bigger issues at play, and they aren't issues he wants to talk about. More often than not, a man who's picking random fights is either cheating, looking to break up, or looking to break you down. Cut him loose if he does this on a regular basis. You deserve better than that.
11. Others take precedence over you at increasing levels.
A good sign he's done with a relationship is seeing how frequently he puts others above you. If you're a bottom priority, you need to leave.
12. It feels like you're putting in all the effort in the relationship.
Experts are right when they say that men will move mountains for someone they love. If they can't even move their ass to try to be romantic with you or plan a date with you, it's often a good indicator that he's checked out of the relationship.
13. He's been cheating on you, and you keep catching him.
In many cases, men who want to break up with their girlfriend will try to “provoke” her into doing so by cheating. Even if he's not consciously trying to provoke you into dumping him, regular affairs are often indicative that he's no longer interested in being in a relationship with you.
14. You get the feeling that he's miserable.
You know the kind of misery I'm talking about, too. It's that miserable where he no longer is the person he used to be, where it goes beyond depression into despair. Do him a favor and let him go.
15. He has straight up told you that he's only with you because of the kids/obligation/comfort.
This isn't even shady. He's telling you he's been over you for a while at this point. It may be time to listen to him.