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Is Marriage Outdated? Or Is There More To It Than Meets The Eye?


Have we REALLY grown out of marriage?

Recent figures show that almost two thirds of young adult men and women — especially millennials — are choosing to just live together instead of getting married. But it makes you wonder...why is this trend becoming more and more popular in spite of there being numerous health and emotional benefits to being married?

Plus, besides the statistical health benefits, there are plenty of other factors that you would think would encourage couples to marry as well. For instance, if one of you is hospitalized and you're not married, the other has no legal say in their care. In terms of a breakup, your partner could walk out tomorrow and take everything — and there would legally be nothing you could do.

I mean, isn't that a scary thought?


But if you really think about the pros of getting married, then you have to think about the cons too. Because, believe it or not, there are tons of reasons people choose not to marry.

For one, you're not held accountable for your partner's horrible credit practices. Their debt will never directly effect you. And then, of course, if you break up, divorce — and all of the financial burdens that come along with it — are nonexistant.

Let's be honest — if things don’t work out, it's WAY easier to end. Maybe not so much emotionally, but at least you save the money you would have spent on a divorce attorney.


That being said, why — in this modern day and age — do we STILL choose to marry the people we love

Tradition? Is it because we still consider marriage the ultimate devotion to someone? Maybe that binding contract is a safety measure against getting out of the relationship too easily. 

Are we driven biologically and spiritually to desire that sacred bond that marriage traditionally represents?

This question raises a ton of debate, with pros and cons on both sides, and our YourTango Experts debate this concept in great detail in this video. Melanie Gorman (YourTango Experts Senior VP) leads the discussion and gets a variety of interesting perspectives, including opinions from author Areille Ford, marriage and family therapist Dr. Foojan Zeine, marriage and couples counselor Rhoberta Shaler and life coach Renee Jain.

These experts have SO much more to offer on this and other relationship topics. Please visit their websites or contact Arielle, Foojan, Rhoberta or Renee directly if you're looking to learn more after the video.



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