It takes a strong woman to forgive.
It’s easy to fall into the idea that forgiveness is something you have to earn. As if it’s only warranted when the person who effed up is fully aware of what they did, and makes every effort to apologize to you.
I don’t know about you, but that’s literally never happened to me before. Ever.
People who have hurt me hardly ever apologize, and sometimes they aren’t even aware of what they’ve done.
But even if I don’t get my big apology — or even an “sry” text — I still forgive them.
You see, holding on to anger isn’t good for you. It keeps you in a sad, lonely place and prevents you from enjoying all the awesome things life has to offer.
It makes you bitter. It makes you cold. It’s not a fun way to live.
Sometimes we fight to keep ourselves in this state of perpetual bitchiness because we confuse it with fighting for ourselves.
We’re mad we were treated so poorly and our anger is the punishment the world has to face for dealing us such a shitty hand.
The only thing that can do that, is forgiveness. Constant, constant forgiveness.
Forgiving people who hurt you isn’t an act of weakness, it’s an act of self-love. You’re telling the world (and yourself) that you’re done holding on to this negative situation, and you’re ready to move forward.
When you forgive someone, you’re giving yourself permission to let go.
You start to look at the situation more with love and less with fear. It becomes less “Why did this happen to me,” and more “I know why this happened to me.”
The lessons of the struggle — be it a breakup or a job loss — become more apparent, and you can actually learn from your mistakes instead of just reveling in them.
The only way to truly move on from something hard or someone who broke your heart is forgiveness.
So if you feel yourself getting angry or sad or any kind of emotion that makes you feel icky, just say to yourself “I forgive you,” and wait for the magic to happen.