A handy guide to common lesbian (stereo)types.
Even if you aren't a lesbian you've probably heard people use descriptors like "power lesbian" or "baby dyke". Sure, you might have an inkling of what each word means, but when taken as a whole you have no clue what those in question are talking about. Plus, as a straight person, it keep feel really disrespectful to start using words like this at all, let alone with no understanding of what we're actually saying.
Prepare to be illuminated.
Consider this the scene in the high school movie where the new student gets a tour of the cafeteria and learns the who's who of their new environment. Let me act as the school's veteran pupil, as I guide you through the trenches, introducing you to the 11 types of lesbians you're the most likely to meet, and if you're lucky, possibly someday have sex with.
Remember, this list is a broad generalization. Every person is different, we can't (and shouldn't) put everyone in an easy-to-understand box. This is more of a fun and sort of silly way in which lesbians refer to one another, than some actual, real-life categorization system.
If you don't know how to identify a person, talk to that person and find out what THEY are the most comfortable with. And know that every person is more than just a label.
1. The activist lesbian
The activist lesbian is characterized by her passion for social justice especially as it pertains to being a lesbian. Butch, femme, young, and old, the activist lesbian can look like any other type of lesbian you might meet. She's inspirational, passionate, and a lover of justice.
2. The lipstick lesbian
A lipstick lesbian, or femme lesbian, loves to dress in a highly feminized or "girly" manner. Skirts, dresses, jewelry, lipstock, elaborate blowouts, these ladies go all out. You can find them lurking in Sephora or shopping up at a store.
3. The chapstick lesbian
The chapstick lesbian is the dividing line between a lipstick lesbian and a butch lesbian. While butch lesbians revel in looking masculine and lipstick lesbians like looking ultra girly, a chapstick lesbian can go either way. She likes dressing up, but she's equally happy in jeans and button down.
4. The butch lesbian
The butch lesbian presents herself as tough, make-up free and masculine to one degree or another. This doesn't mean she's trying to look like a man, she's just subverting your idea of what a woman should look like and looking hot as hell in the process.
5. The stone butch lesbian
A stone butch lesbian is a butch lesbian (see above) who derives sexual pleasure from giving other women pleasure. She is a giver and not a receiver, so do not under any circumstances get that noise twisted, my friends.
6. The boi lesbian
There are bois in the gay community and the lesbian community. In the lesbian community the boi lesbian is biologically female but presents as looking boyish. Bois tend to date older partners.
7. The power lesbian
The power lesbian is a lesbian with her shit together! She's the leader in her field, the top of the tops. She's the best surgeon, the best lawyer, the most influential policy maker. She's all about taking on that head honcho role and crushing it. Think Tabitha Coffey.
8. The hasbian lesbian
A "hasbian" is a woman who once identified as a lesbian but now dates men and doesn't identify themselves as being straight OR bi. They were a lesbian, now they are dating a man, and who knows what the future might hold.
9. The LUG lesbian
LUG stands for "lesbian until graduation." This is the undergraduate lesbian-curious girl, who is finally exploring her sexuality and discovering that she is attracted to women. It could be a phase, but that's up to them.
10. The sport dyke lesbian
The sport dyke isn't characterized so much as being attracted to other women as much as she is obsessed with her sport of choice. Not all lesbians are sport dykes, but all sport dykes are definitely lesbians.
11. The baby dyke lesbian
The baby dyke lesbian is a fond title given to a woman who has just come out of the closet and started becoming a part of the lesbian community. She could be femme, butch, chapstick, or anything else, but for now she is characterized by her newness to the scene.