Don’t wait around.
When we’re broken hearted, we tend to do some really dumb stuff. Like leaving a drunken voicemail of you singing Neyo’s “So Sick,” at 4 a.m. kinda dumb stuff.
It’s cool. I mean, we’re all human, and we all go a little cray when facing the harsh reality of romantic rejection. While I’m totally down to use it as an excuse for a lot of things (fender benders, speeding tickets, junk food binges, sleeping in, missing work, etc.), after a certain period of time that heartbreak becomes a crutch we use that keeps us from moving on.
Or doing anything at all.
Yes I’ve met tons of people (myself included) that milk the sad feels of a breakup far longer than we were supposed to just because we were afraid of change.
We're terrified of making any moves because we don’t want to experience that heartache again.
In order to keep ourselves safe, we lie and say we are still “going through stuff” hoping no one would expect anything of us — ever.
But the thing about safety — especially emotional safety — is that it’s an illusion. It’s not real. It’s just a curtain we hide behind because we don’t want to take responsibility for anything.
We don’t want to be the ones who mess up.
One of the lies we tell ourselves in an effort to stay in that sad but seemingly safe place, is that we need closure. We just can’t get over the breakup until we fully understand every little detail that led up to it.
We say it out loud like it makes sense, but it doesn’t.
People tell me I’m dumb for wanting to live in such a naive space, but if nothing productive is going to come out of that kind of conversation, why have it?
You’re smart. You can probably figure out the role you played in the end of the relationship. You don’t need someone to spell it out for you in order for you to move forward.
It’s time to stop waiting for people to save you and start saving yourself instead.