If Harry Potter Can Make a Long Distance Romance Work, So Can You

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Daniel Radcliffe talks about how to foster love over long distances.

Long distance relationships aren’t easy things to maintain, but, more often than not, they’re totally worth it. How can I prove that? Because even celebrities — people who almost literally have every option available to them — will put in the work to keep a romance going over thousands of miles, if it really means something to them.

Case in point — Daniel Radcliffe, best known as Harry Potter, an actor who could literally have a woman from any Hogwarts house he chooses, has been in a loving, committed, and often frequently separated relationship with his long-time girlfriend for over four years now.

Radcliffe was on The View recently, talking about his new movie Imperium, and the question came up about how exactly he manages his long-distance romance.

His response was, “She’s in California filming a series and I’m here [New York] doing a play, so we’re Skyping endlessly. But there’s always an element of long distance with two actors in a relationship. We always end up traveling a lot but this is the longest we’ve done. It is what it is."

Radcliffe met his girlfriend, actress Erin Darke, on the set of his 2013 movie Kill Your Darlings, all about poet Allen Ginsberg and the early days of the Beat Generation. (Radcliffe played Ginsburg.)

The actor previously told The Daily Mail that he fell in love with Darke while filming the movie, saying, “There’s a moment when she makes me laugh [in the film], and I’m laughing as me, and not as my character. She was incredibly funny and incredibly smart. I knew I was in trouble.”

But it was really heartening to see Radcliffe on The View talking about the mundane details and joys of staying in touch with the person you love — even if they’re thousands of miles away.


“I’m very grateful for Skype and Facebook,” he told the panel. “I always think about what must this have been like to do in the 1800s.” And he’s right.

We are living in the golden age of the long distance romance.

Even if you don’t factor in relatively reasonable domestic and international airfare rates, most of us carry a device in our pocket that will allow us to see and casually chat with someone on the other side of the world. It’s remarkable. Those tools are a boon to long-distance lovers.

(The current sexting revolution also helps.)

But, while advances like that make connecting easier, they’re not the real reason why we fight to make long-distance relationships work.

Again, someone like Daniel Radcliffe doesn’t HAVE to stay with a girlfriend that he’s not going to see every day. I’m not suggesting that he’s some kind of egomaniac — he actually seems quite grounded and pleasant — but someone with his level of fame could, in theory, have a lover in every port.

And yet he stays with his long-time girlfriend who lives on the other side of the country, even with all of the Hufflepuff hotties available to him.

Why? Because long-distance relationships — when you find the right person — are worth it. They are worth fighting for. They’re worth the inconveniences. They’re worth the heartache and homesickness.

It just takes a little patience, some scheduling, and, yes, some technological assists if they’re available.

But, c’mon, if someone as famous as Harry Potter can put in the work, you can too.


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