Sometimes The Only Way To Save Yourself Is To Say Goodbye

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Heartbreak, Love

You have to do what's best for you.

We’ve all been consumed by love. All it takes is the right set of eyes and compatibility to send you spiraling into a black hole of romance, love and boyfriend weight. 

It’s just a part of life to find yourself entrenched and entangled with another human being.

Logically, it’s impractical to put someone else’s needs and wants before your own.

I mean, why would you quit a job you love and leave your family and friends just because this guy you’re sleeping with wants to chase his dreams of building a tech startup in Seattle? 

Love, that’s why. 

Impractical should be its middle name, because love tends to make us do things that don’t make sense to anyone outside the relationship. I once spent an entire evening putting together an Easter basket for my 21-year-old boyfriend because he had mentioned to me four months earlier that he had never had one. 

That’s what love will do to ya. 


And when it’s great, it’s great. Relationships and romance are what makes life so magical. It’s when things go south that the table flips, and love makes your life literal hell. 

This kind of hell can be described in a few ways. For some, it’s the intense, constant arguing and jealousy that makes the relationship unbearable. And for others, it’s the monotonous and predictable behavior that drives them to a breakup.

Personally, I can tell a relationship is on the rocks (and potentially well on its way to crash and burn) when I start to not feel like myself. 

If you’re constantly down, stressed or just feeling like you want to forget the world and veg out in front of the TV, it’s time to have a conversation.

All relationships have the potential to be saved, but that doesn’t mean they all should be. 

A bump in the road just a bump, but if the problems have been unsolved for sometime, you need to walk away.


Removing yourself from a situation is one of the easiest ways to think about it logically. You take out some of the intense emotions you feel when you’re face to face with your S.O., and you’re better able to see things clearly. 

Only then can you figure out if the relationship is still serving you and what it would take to make you happy again. 

Love does mean you willingly put someone else’s needs before your own. It’s fine, it happens and it’s usually out of good intentions.

But that doesn’t mean you should forget yourself completely. 

Relationships only work when both people are being heard and taken care of. Don’t let your love for someone else make you forget about the love you have for yourself.  




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