These songs will work you through the four stages of breakup grief so you can learn to love again.
From the pain and remorse, to the anger and comeback, breakups suck. But a good set of jams can make all the difference to help you get through it. Take this playlist to bring you out of the hurt and help you get your groove back, one song at a time.
STAGE ONE: SORROW
You’re hurting, and that’s understandable. Whether it lasted a month or multiple years, the pain of ending a relationship always cuts deepest when it’s fresh. It’s ok to cry. In fact, you should. Let it all out with these tear-jerking jams.
A mournful ballot, Un-Break My Heart could easily earn itself a spot on the list of most relatable, sob-inviting songs. Let the waterworks begin as you remember the best and worst.
You’ve started crying, and all the memories are rushing back. Do you even remember why the relationship ended? Lady Antebellum reminds you just how much you really did need this person with her break-up classic, Need You Now.
After your preliminary shock, breakups can be confusing. Now it’s not the memories that may haunt you, but the questions. To quote Rihanna in her questioning song Stay, are you, “really sure how to feel about it?”
STAGE TWO: REMORSE
After the tears slow, it’s time to heal. There’s no moving on if you allow yourself to sit in your own personal pity party for the rest of your life. But sometimes, there’s no escaping the regret either. This next section will help you realize it’s all gonna be ok. You can, and will, move on.
Just as the title suggests, time heals all wounds. Let Leona Lewis sing to you about how your breakup isn’t the end of the world. You’ll make it through.
But just because you’ll survive doesn’t mean it’ll be an easy road. Reminiscent of Pat Benatar’s, “Love Is a Battlefield,” Jordin Sparks reminds you that love in itself is a struggle and you “better go and get your armor.”
Now, it’s time to move on. This person is in the past, and they aren’t worth any more of your tears or heartache. Take some advice from Gotye: don’t let yourself wallow in the sadness of your own regret.
STAGE THREE: ANGER
Even after you’ve accepted the truth, however, some resentment might still remain. They hurt you. And you’re mad. But you have every right to be! Just as you’re entitled to your tears, and entitled to your sadness, you’re entitled to your anger. Let your heart burn with these next few songs as you dispel the rest of your negative emotions.
Taylor Swift is no stranger to writing songs about relationships, both good and bad. She can definitely help remind you that burning they who caused you pain from your memory may not be such a bad idea.
Now, rage! Get angry, be mad! It’s all part of the grieving and healing process. Your relationship is over? So what! P!nk wants you to know (with her chainsaw in hand), that you’re still a rock star and you don’t need anyone to tell you that.
After you’ve gone through your (potentially rage-filled) cleansing process, whatever it may be, it’s time to take a deep breath. According to Alesha Dixon, true ladies, “never lose composure.” They keep a level head. So flip your hair, brush it off, and move along like the lady you are.
STAGE FOUR: COMEBACK
Now comes the fun part. You’ve cried; you’ve hurt; you’ve raged, now, it’s time to get back on the horse and show the world that your breakup hasn’t gotten the best of you. You’re not broken, but rather, you’re flourishing.
And now you’ve moved on! Look in the mirror, that person is you’re biggest cheerleader and they’ll always be in your corner. Take a note from Hailee Steinfeld, and love yourself.
Alyson Stoner reminds you to work what you’ve got. Be strong. Be confident! You’re a woman and you need to know that you’re, “not here to play nice, or leave with a good review.” You’re here for YOU.
So go out, let loose, and enjoy yourself. Find your happy place because your pain is in the past. Finish off the playlist with Meghan Trainor’s, Better When I’m Dancin' and let the music relax your mind with a care-free, upbeat jam.
Breakups SUCK. That’s a fact, and there’s no getting around it.
But it’s important to not let yourself fester in the toxic emotions of sadness and regret, or to linger too long in love songs. There’s no moving on until you help yourself to do it, so let this Perfect Post-Breakup Playlist be the rhythmic guide back to your own contentment.
Listen to ALL of these songs on our Spotify and YouTube playlists below: