9 Gay Men Give Insanely BRILLIANT Sex Advice To Straight Men

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I mean, they would know.

Gay men have an ideal perspective on both being a man having sex, as well as having sex with a man. What does that mean? It means that they have a lot of bedroom advice to offer their straight male counterparts who are in relationships with women.

"Sometimes, all a girl (and that's how many homosexual bottoms refer to themselves too) wants is a good old-fashioned, throw-me-down f*ck. Surprise me. Don't even say hello when you first see me. Just plant a passionate kiss on me, lift me up or bend me over... thrust all of your glorious manhood inside of me!" says Koji Morishita, manager/editor of content for Bobbing for Apples in the Big Apple.

Think: Kelly Preston's famous sex scene with Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire. "Don't ever stop f*cking me!"

Here are nine pieces of advice that straight men can learn from gay sex.

1. Lick it before you stick it.

"I suck your dick to get it nice and hard. Now return the favor. Moisten me up until I'm good and wet. It's always nice to get a tongue massage to relax the area before you start pounding away with your jackhammer (not that the deep, penetrating thrusts aren't enjoyable). Here, straight guys are probably lucky. Cunningulus is probably much preferred to rimming (what gay tops do to their bottoms)," says Morishita.

2. Show your partner off to the world.

"If we're in an apartment on a high floor with floor-to-ceiling windows, press my body up against the window and f*ck me for all of the city to see. Let me feel how proud and lucky you feel to be inside of me. Let's do it on a balcony. Introduce the element of risk (but make sure we don't get caught) to reinforce the safety and security I feel in your embrace. Just as you lead on the dance floor, you should take reigns here," says Morishita.

3. There's a time and place for rough sex.

I know you're all about marathon f*cks (and may well have the stamina to go for 26.2 strokes), but sometimes a girl needs a break after you've ruffled our feathers. Rough sex is hot, but there's a time and a place.

"Give us time to recoup if you've particularly roughed us up. We don't have to have sex every waking hour of the day (unless another hurricane or snowstorm shuts the city down). Remember when Arnold Schwarzenegger gently rubbed a rose down the center length of Jamie Lee Curtis' face in True Lies? How about something like that? We could start there and then play Army — you lie on the ground and take cover while I blow the hell out of you!" says Morishita.

4. Stop thinking you're a porn star.

If you're looking for a connection lasting longer than your orgasm, be real.

"Being authentic in bed is the best way to sharing a mutually beneficial body-shaking, toe-curling, chest-trembling orgasm that will have her coming back for more. It's most likely not her intentions to be on the set of the next adult film with you. Set your priorities in the real world. The more you pretend you're a porn star, the more your partner will end up aspiring to be one. You'll orgasm, and she possibly might, but it will be artificial and far from any reality worth revisiting," says Michael Colgan, a gay man who agreed to chat with us.

5. Be secure in your abilities.

"The biggest turn off for me is when a man doesn't truly own what he's doing in bed. Nothing kills the mood more when a guy asks your permission or checks in to see if everything is 'OK.' We let you into our beds, remember? Of course I'm OK. Keep going! If it's not, I'll be the first one to tell you. Whatever attitude you bring to our bed, we will match it. If you're geeking out and lacking self-esteem between the sheets, we will lose interest really quick." says Colgan.

6. Don't take yourself so seriously.

You aren't a Greek god gifting them with your presence. Drop the act and talk to them like a human being.

"Connecting with your date as an equal is the best way to gain their trust. When you think you're above us, we'll loathe our time being wasted with you. This doesn't mean that you have to talk their ear off to show them that you aren't an assh*le. Instead, sit back and listen. If you show genuine interest and throw the assumed hierarchy out the window, you'll be surprised at how easy it is to get people to talk about themselves," says Colgan.

7. Don't talk so much.

Sometimes it's just better to shut up and immerse yourself in the moment.

"Talking too much can be a major turn off in the heat of the moment. Make eye contact with them and savor the intimate silence. If it's awkward, go with it. Acknowledge that you're nervous and are at a loss for words. Don't come right out and say it, though. Keep eye contact the entire time. Have a line in your back pocket prepared that will help you get out of the awkwardness," says Colgan.

8. Have an angel on one shoulder, a devil on the other.

"I loathe narcissism, but even though I consciously attempt to avoid them, I always find myself veering towards them. Selfish people are more efficient at creating confidence and humor, but over time, it tends to decline once we realize that you're an assh*le. However, just a spoonful of narcissism makes a good impression short-term. Goodness is key, but having the ability to be a tad bit mysterious and alluring goes a long way," says Colgan.

9. Netflix and chill actually works.

Enough said. Dates don't have to be complicated.

"Before social media, remember when you'd ask someone to rent a movie? You'd meet at your place, go to Blockbuster together to pick out a movie, and then head back home to the couch. Nothing has changed. You just need to make it more of an event like it used to be so you don't appear thirsty or cheap," says Colgan.

 

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