Don't Permanently Lose Your Dignity For A Temporary Man

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Respect yourself.

It’s way too easy to get caught up in someone.

When you click, sparks fly and you think you’re about to embark on some epic romantic adventure, it’s normal to want to let your guard down and just enjoy it. I mean, how often do you meet someone awesome who you click immediately click with??

Yes it’s fun to get swept up in the excitement of it all, but it’s also very dangerous for your self-esteem.

Because while some of those hot and heavy flings last, many of them burn out hella fast.

My personal rule of thumb is, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. If a guy you just met is talking about vacations, how special you are and how he just wants to introduce you to his parents already, it’s usually 60% bullshit (that’s likely fueled by alcohol and dimly lit restaurants).

Real relationships take time, and you have to get to know someone to figure out if your initial star-struck feelings are actually real.

So please. Please. Don’t sleep with them too soon.


I know we’re modern women, and casual sex is like a really empowering way to tell the world that it’s your body and you’ll do what you want with it, but giving it up too quickly can really break your heart.

And why would you want to cause yourself so much pain for a guy you literally met last week?

Now maybe some ladies are better at not getting their emotions involved when it comes to doing the dirty. Only you know what you can handle, so make sure you’re being honest with yourself.

Personally, I say wait until you know the guy is serious about what he’s saying.

Wait 'til his actions match his words.

Wait 'til that star-struck feeling wears off a little and you can see him for who he is.

And if you’re worried that he won’t wait around for you, then you already have your answer: he’s not worth it.

Do yourself a favor, protect your own self esteem, and don’t give it up just yet.


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