Ozzy’s Confession Proves 'Sex Addiction' Is Just An Excuse To Cheat

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Ozzy Osbourne Proves 'Sex Addiction' Is Just A Trendy Excuse To Cheat
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It's not a mental illness. It's a trend.

Nobody go falling out of your chair now, but I have to let you in on something pretty darn major that's going on in our universe right now. 

Are you all buckled up? Here goes:

Ozzy Osbourne — legendary Godfather of Heavy Metal —  has confessed to the public and to his wife, Sharon, that he has been cheating on her the past 6 years.

Oh no, wait. I got that wrong. 

Ozzy Osbourne — devoted family man and upright citizen of the world — has humbly come forward with the startling news that he has been battling a severe sex addiction for the past 6 years. 

That sounds so much more romantic, doesn't it?

I really don't mean to sound like a bitch (and if I was a dude writing this that thought would never cross your mind anyway, but whatevs), but here's my problem with today's tearful pity party for interview with Mrs. Osbourne:

Sending an unfaithful husband off for "intensive sex addiction therapy" has become the fancy trend de jour for men of means to purchase themselves a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card — and for their wives to save face while punish their betraying louse of a husband at the exact same time. 

Remember back to the olden days of the 1950's and 1960's when teenage girls would take "a semester overseas" (wink-wink-nudge-nudge)?

For you young-uns out there, that was when a girl found herself somehow pregnant out-of-wedlock and was hidden in some far off relatives house until she had the baby, gave it up for adoption, and returned home with her figure and her reputation still intact.

And there you have in a nutshell exactly what is going on in the 21st century with husbands and their affairs or illegal indiscretions with minors "sex addictions." 

The thing of it is, sex addiction is a myth.

It's a good one. It has lots of drama and intrigue. Lots of scary tales filled with romance and passion and heartbreak and weeping and confessing and being healed and the world being set right again at the end. But it just isn't true.

There is no standardized medical definition for sex addiction, and the staff running sex addiction treatment centers are most often business people, religious moralists and/or addictionologists with little to no substantive training in human sexuality or even basic psychology. Worse than that, promoting the idea that sex addiction is a real thing has been proven to cause serious emotional and psychological damage in the men who accept that label.

According to renowned sex therapist, author, educator and public policy analyst Dr. Marty Klein, the model of sex addiction has become increasingly popular in part because "it distances personal responsibility for sexual choices." He then cites Loyola University’s Dr. Domeena Renshaw, who said, "'My illness makes me have affairs' is a very popular concept. The concept seems to allow sexual expression without the punishment our infantile side." 

Klein continues to say the concept of sex addiction "provides pseudoscientific support for the intuitive belief that sex is dangerous. In doing so it legitimizes sex-negative attitudes and supports sexual guilt."

This makes the myth of sex addiction a HUGE win for the humiliated partners who have been cheated on.

Let's take a little look at Sharon's public statement on her show, The Talk, today.

E!News quotes Sharon saying:

"'He's been an outpatient for sex addiction for the last three months,' she told the panel of hosts as tears welled up in her eyes. 'And after the tour — he's starting his summer tour with Black Sabbath — after the tour he goes into in patient for three months. He's working at it. It's hard because it affects the whole family. And it's quite embarrassing to talk about.'"

So, to summarize, Mrs. O ...

  • Ozzy's been in treatment for 3 months now, and you just happened to choose this moment, as he is kicking off his reunion tour with Black Sabbath, to let the whole world know about it.
  • He has been "suffering" with this "addiction" for the past 6 years, and now, as he is finally willing and able to "take back control" of his own life and sexuality, no one — not you or Ozzy or his treatment "providers" — feel that sending him off on tour as the lead singer of a MASSIVELY famous rock band might somehow jeopardize his recovery.
  • You find this addiction "quite embarrassing to talk about" — despite the fact that both of you and your family members have already fought highly public battles against addictions to drugs and alcohol — and yet you are still talking about it, and on your own show. I'm quite sure that your ratings had nothing to do with that. Of course.

Are there men (and women) who engage in sex in a reckless manner? Yes.

Are there men (and women) who exhibit impulsive, possibly even compulsive sexual behaviors that negatively effect them and their lives? You betcha.

And are there men who cheat on their wives just because they can? Yes. 

But as Dr. David Ley, internationally recognized expert on issues related to sexuality and mental health, said to me tonight when I reached him for a comment, "That's why men become rock 'n' roll gods."



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