He wants to love you, but he just can't.
Every man I have ever dated has daddy issues.
I'm not saying this in a dismissive way. Each one of these wonderful men was deeply impacted by the behavior of a father who was abusive, emotionally cold, or just plain not there.
Let me tell you the most important thing before we go any further: this is a man who needs and deserves love.
But loving and dating him isn't always going to be easy. In fact, some times it can be damn rough.
Here are 6 problems you might face dating a man with daddy issues.
1. He's got a hidden (or not so hidden) anger
His friends describe him as the life of the party. He's sweet and funny, a total goofball and a giant pushover. But he's got a lot of anger simmering inside him. It can manifest in a lot of weird ways. Something as simple as fallen quiche could send him spiraling.
2. The idea of kids could freak him out
Sure, guys of all sorts have issues when it comes to talking about a future, but your guy takes it to the extreme. You smile at a cute baby passing on the street and when you turn to look at him there's just a him shaped cloud where the dude used to be.
3. He will be weird with your dad
He's charming as the day is long. He meets your friends and they love him, he even manages to charm your mother. But he's weird with your dad. If he agrees to meet him at all he's hostile and sullen.
He can't separate his own dad from what it means to be any dad at all.
4. He has a hard time opening up
By month three of dating, he's got a pretty solid sense of who you are, where you come from. Of course, there's still a shit ton to learn, but there's a foundation. But you know almost nothing about him. You know where he lives, you know what music he likes, you know he makes he laugh until you want to pee, but, that's kind of it.
He's a closed book, not by choice, but because he's had to be.
5. He can't say "I love you"
But for him love equals pain, and he'll do anything to avoid feeling that way ever again.
6. Fighting with him is impossible
Try fighting with a guy who has daddy issues. Try it. I dare you. It's impossible. Hermit crab like, he will retreat deep into his shell before he'll risk having a feeling in front of you.
Unless he's drunk in which case he might start sobbing and tell you about how his dad walked out on him for a life of drugs when he was five.
Or maybe that was just me that one time.