It's better to know the truth.
But relationship complications should be something you experience after the honeymoon phase wears off.
If things are complicated from the get go, then it's not a relationship you should be chasing after.
While every situation is different — there will always, always be exceptions — I think it's fair to say that if you're struggling to make the potential relationship into a real one, then chances are, it ain't gonna happen.
There will be overbearing mothers, crazy ex-girlfriends, alcohol, job changes, distance, and a billion other things that could complicate a relationship.
But one thing that should never be questioned or put under a microscope is your desire to be together.
If a person wants to be in a relationship with you, they'll be in a relationship with you. It's as simple as that.
But somewhere along the line we've complicated things. We've given people excuses for why they're not committing, and convinced ourselves it's worth it to stick around and wait.
We've become doormats for people who have no interest in us being anything other than doormats.
It's not fair to you, and it needs to stop.
If you want to be taken seriously and really wanted by the person you love, then you have to stop accepting less for yourself. You have to say no to half-assed relationships, booty calls and guys who "aren't looking for anything serious but are open for more". Because who the hell knows what that even means.
There should be no doubt that the guy you're seeing wants to be seen with you.
If you're unsure if you're his girlfriend, than you're probably not.
But here are some other signs in case you need more reassurance to move on:
If you haven't met anyone in his circle, it's because he doesn't want you to.
a.k.a. He's not afraid to be seen with you in public.
If he only messages you through Facebook or doesn't follow you back on Instagram, it's because he doesn't want there to be a trail connecting you together.
Also, "boo" and "bae" are not synonymous with "girlfriend."
Because if you have to question whether or not you're in a relationship, it means you're probably not. Time to move on, boo thang.