Strong Women Are NOT Passive Aggressive, They Speak Their Damn Minds

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Passive Agressive
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Ask for what you want.

I'm a pro when it comes to pouting. 

During those hundreds of times that life isn't going my way, I found total comfort just sitting on my couch, cuddling with my dissatisfaction. Sometimes it's necessary, and it's totally OK to indulge a little bit when I'm by myself.

But when I actually have to confront another human being with my feelings ... um, no thanks. 

Rather than tell them what I want or what I'm unhappy with — and actually solve the problem — I prefer to throw out a passive aggressive "I'm fine" when I'm anything but.

Maybe it's the thrill of seeing if they'll poke me further and insist on me revealing all my struggles. Maybe it's that I have the emotionally maturity of a 3-year-old.

Regardless, it leads to a lot of dysfunction. 


And it turns out, I'm not alone! There are passive aggressive people all around me, and I interact with them on a daily basis.

And while there are plenty of men who struggle with this communication issue, I find that women tend to be the real culprits. 

Whether it's not telling our boyfriends that them talking to their ex makes us uncomfortable or not being upfront with our boss about how much we're struggling with our workload, our passive aggression causes a lot of our problems. 

You can't have the life you want if you don't ask for it.

Simple as that. 


So while it feels easier to brush off your emotions and hope that somebody else figures it out for you, it will pay off a lot more in the long run to actually talk.

Like really figure out why you think you're feeling what you're feeling and tell the other person that. 

Even if it still all goes to hell, at least it was because you were honest. 




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